Sorry new to all this and think I inadvertent ly highjacked another thread. Sorry.
Basically the problem is that my one year younger than me siblings (twins) arrange meeting , holidays and celebrations without contacting me or only at the last minute so that it's difficult to go. Sister lives 200 miles away and brother is in Canada. I had thought we would have a joint 70th birthday celebration this year (I discussed this with my sister back in Jan) but since then she didnt contact me. Whilst trying to make contact to see what was happening I found out via fb that out brother had already arrived in the UK and then the 4 of them were enjoying a lovely holiday in Croatia. On their return neither contacted me and then sisters daughter invited us to a party with barely 2 week's notice which due to the lateness, arrangements for animals and the distance (husband and I are both in remission from cancer) we just couldn't make it. However I sent presents and cards for the party. Sister rang to thank me and I (nicely) asked why I had been left out of the planning of our brothers visit. She said they didn't tell me about the holiday as it cost much more than we could afford and she didnt want me to be jealous! I said it wasn't abt the holiday but just not telling me anything about our brothers visit. She said they he was 'only' my brother whereas she was his twin which was more important. I said that was a bit unkind to which I she said she was getting annoyed with me and hung up. That was in June and despite phone messages left by me and emails she has made no contact. I hold no grudge and accept her but I am deeply hurt. She is a very volatile person and has been since childhood. My brother (who returned to Canada without seeing or contacting me) is in reasonably frequent contact (if impersonal) via FB and clearly doesn't want to say anything to our sister. I hate bad feeling but I'm quite heartbroken. Her second husband is a sweet man but seems also unwilling to talk to her about this. Do I just let go?
Parents-in-Law. What do/did you call them?
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