Sky can I just tell you something from my POV. When I had my DD I had something called post natal anxiety.
It wasn't depression although that soon followed.
I couldn't let my DD out of my sight the worry and stress was absolutely overwhelming. I would have panic attacks, I couldn't sleep, I was losing weight. I was crying all the time I was so poorly.
I couldn't switch these off. It was something I had to do on my own, gradually.
My brain would go over every bad situation and I would be convinced this was going to happen.
Car crashes, kidnapping, abduction, death, cancer..you name it, I was convinced it would happen to DD.
My MIL would stomp her feet and presume her wants would trump my illness. She had zero understanding.
She could 'want' all she wanted, it wasn't going to happen.
It did however cause massive strain and arguments with her as DH as he understand I was ill and couldn't pick and choose when I had this.
Midwives Knew, HV Knew, my doctor knew. It wasn't something I shouted from the rooftops though.
Keep being a support.
My DD is 8 now. Dd2 came along and it didn't go,it got better. I still have it but can manage it.
It isn't something she can turn off. Don't put her in a horrible position she can't help being in.