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Telly Fri 02-Feb-18 17:07:07

Obviously this used to mark retirement but now it can be almost any number and the official retirement age is moving to 68. What about people reaching 65 now - is this a 'special' birthday, assuming they have already retired that is? What do you think? Would you mark it or just let it slip by?

mollie Fri 02-Feb-18 17:14:13

I’m not a party person but I think that any birthday after 59 deserves a little bit of fuss made of it so yes, I’ll break out the fizz when I hit 65.

varian Fri 02-Feb-18 17:19:13

I can't remember doing anything special when I was sixty-five. Too busy working at full tilt.

I do remember my seventieth birthday although I was still working I think that was when I began to slow down.

We were expecting our children and grandchildren to arrive for a special meal but it was even more special when my Mum turned up unexpectedly. I do miss her now she's gone.

kathsue Fri 02-Feb-18 17:35:30

If you like parties then I'd say go for it! Have a party at 65 and another one to celebrate your retirement.
You don't know how many Birthdays you've got left so make the most of them.
That's my philosophy anyway.

Telly Fri 02-Feb-18 17:49:58

Varian - lucky you to have your mum still with you at 65! My mother had children later in life (for the time anyway) so it has been quite a few years since she died. I do miss her too.

Telly Fri 02-Feb-18 17:51:10

kathsue - I have retired, so I guess that's my hesitancy! Consensus at the moment seems to be go for it.......

mcem Fri 02-Feb-18 18:20:08

Family meal at 60. 65 don't remember. 70 next month and have opted for no party but take 2 wee ones to disneyland Paris!
2 close friends having big parties for 70.
We also have an 18, a 21, a 30, a 40 and an 80 plus a wedding so will be all partied out without adding another!!

Bridgeit Fri 02-Feb-18 18:23:39

Definitely it kind of represents official retirement even if you don’t retire, any excuse for a nice indulgent day/night, have a memorable time🍾

annodomini Fri 02-Feb-18 18:27:12

Big 'do' for 70th, organised by DSs, DDiLs and senior GD. Old friends from Uni and my time in Kenya came as did rarely seen relatives and in-laws. I don't expect anything so special at 80. In fact, I think that landmark will be better forgotten.

BlueBelle Fri 02-Feb-18 19:07:33

Had a family do at 60 with two out of three children and four grandkids, other son and family too far away, nothing at 65 or 70 or retirement (at 68) think I might do a little meal for 75
( I had my mum and dad till I was 68)

Maggiemaybe Fri 02-Feb-18 20:07:56

DH and I share a birthday week and he’s 5 years older, so we have joint special ocelebrations. Our last was 60/65, our next big one will be 65/70. The fizz comes out every year. wink

lemongrove Fri 02-Feb-18 20:13:33

Damn! I didn’t do anything special for 65, I should have had a party.
Golden wedding in two years though, so will hopefully have a big party then ( if still here.😱)

Lyndylou Fri 02-Feb-18 21:02:36

I didn't do anything special, I don't really like parties. I was 66 last week, its my daughter's birthday next week so I think we will have a family dinner to celebrate both.

Talking of retirement though, I lost my job today (Carillion related), I was hoping to work until the summer so I could officially say I had worked for 50 years. sad

Sar53 Fri 02-Feb-18 21:59:16

I am 65 this June but hadn't even thought about a big celebration, in fact OH will be away with work and I will be home alone sad.
We had a lovely family dinner for my 60th though.

ninathenana Sat 03-Feb-18 06:58:48

We went to Switzerland for my 60th four years ago and have booked a luxury weekend at a country hotel with friends for H's 70th in April.
H took early retirement at 60 and I retired early too, so 65 is not that significant for us.

OldMeg Sat 03-Feb-18 07:57:04

Any excuse for a party is my way 🍷🌟🎂🥂🍾🤣

travelsafar Sat 03-Feb-18 08:33:09

OH how lucky i was on my 60th and 65th. On my 60th I was taken to London to Albert Hall for Classic spectacular and afternoon tea at Fortnums and Masons this on the actual day, then the next day a big family lunch. My 65th was on a Thursday so we had a family celebration lunch on the previous Sunday as on my actual 65th I flew to India for a once in a life time holiday. So both birthdays very significant to me and I count myself as very lucky.

Christinefrance Sat 03-Feb-18 08:52:05

If you enjoy parties then go for it Telly always good to gather with family and friends.
We had a party for our 70th instead. Enjoy.flowerscupcake
Sorry to hear about your job Lindylou there must be a lot of people in your situation now, it must be very worrying for all.

NannyJan53 Sat 03-Feb-18 09:20:17

I am 65 in September, and can officially draw on State Pension next month. I retired in May and had a family and friends meal to mark that occasion.

For my 60th we had a lovely meal with about 22 of us, and then we went to Venice for 5 days.

Not really thought about celebrating my 65th, but now, thinking about it smile. I may just start dropping hints!

Lyndylou Sat 03-Feb-18 09:37:33

Thank you christinefrance we had been expecting it, we just thought we would get more notice. We were told yesterday at 11 a.m. that we would finish at 17.00. So very sad day, everyone saying goodbye to each other, and, to be honest, it only sank in when I wrote it in the post here last night! I feel a part of me is missing this morning. But it is my colleagues I feel sorry for, I do at least have the pension to fall back on.

Teetime Sat 03-Feb-18 09:43:40

I'm 65 in 9 days time. DH is taking me shopping for clothes in Birmingham and a lunch at Jamie's then the next day a very nice Sunday Lunch at our favourite gastro pub. On the day itself I shall play walking netball as usual and make us a nice dinner.

NonnaW Sat 03-Feb-18 11:54:35

I am 65 in October but unlike NannyJan will not get my pension until August (what weird logic do they apply?). We had been planning on organising a special holiday to USA but I’m reluctant as we have some ongoing concerns re DH’s pension. I’d hate to commit a lot of money only to find that his pension is slashed and we can’t afford it!

welshchrissy Sun 04-Feb-18 09:16:35

I was 65 yesterday and celebrated it with a holiday in Benidorm. Had a lovely day in the sun then a Chinese meal in the evening just me and hubby. Far too much too drink and some lovely messages on Facebook from family. But surely every birthday is important and deserves a celebration we may be getting on but we are still the generation that knows how to enjoy ourselves but with the confidence to do what we want not what is expected. Happy birthday to all you gransnetters whenever your day maybe

P3terpan Sun 04-Feb-18 09:27:33

I’ll be celebrating my 65th on the greyhound bus from New York to Atlantic City on the first leg of our 5 week road trip in America and Canada. (We will hire a car after Washington DC) DH will be 66 the day after my birthday so we celebrate together looking forward to it.

moobox Sun 04-Feb-18 09:30:08

I am trying hard to remember. After all, it was a long time ago - almost 3 months, lol! Oh yes, I had the pleasure of an evening staying with the family with a take away and birthday cake, followed by a weekend in sole charge of baby GS, who had made me a handprint tile, saying Happy 65th birthday granny. Purr..fect