65 Anyone?

Have a party by all means if you enjoy them...
I'm 70 in April and loathe any fuss made of me. My job is to function in the background, making sure all the wheels are oiled!
My worst fear is a surprise party - my DC know I would never speak to them again if they organised one for me.
My problem is that DH takes over and tells me where I would like to go/do. He isn't bossy or anything but likes to think that he knows what I want better than I do.
My DCs and DGCs in this country will be coming over. I shall have a lunch in a restaurant, pandering to extremely fussy DGDs [not my choice!], and the following day [real birthday which is shared with DGD1] we'll have a party for her here. Not sure if I'm looking forward to it or not. The parties, not the birthday , can't do anything about that!

DH is 65 this month. We've booked one night in a very fancy hotel. We do the same on my birthday in July too.

I was 60 last year and for some reason I dreaded it - I refused any fuss and a party to “celebrate” being 60 would have been the worse thing ever - I even told people no cards with the number 60 on them. I dont know why but thats just how I felt - I all of a sudden felt OLD - yet here I am a year on and dont feel any different to what I did 5 or so years ago! Age is just a number as they say

Done 60,65,70 and waiting for 75. Our 50th Anniversary will be this year, probably have a meal with d and gd. No parties our son not here to join in not the same.

We had to cancel the Ladies only dinner I had organised for my 60th as I had swine flu. The family lunch was also cancelled as we had a family emergency but my daughter and I had a wonderful trip to Verona and Sirmione. We can’t quite decide where to go next year for my 70th but it will probably be Stateside.

For my 60th we hired a luxury villa with private pool in the Canaries for us, kids and grandkids. On my actual birthday we went to a posh restaurant and had a fabulous paella and l9ts of sangria. We all loved spending 2 weeks together and it was a special time. 61 coming up and gd wants to know where we're going this year! (Local pub). Will do something for 65th, but doubt it will beat 60th

Had a small family party at 60, special holiday at 65, another larger family party at 70 and 75 now approaching too fast - must decide what to do. Any birthday ending in 0 or 5 is worth celebrating after 60 I think.

DH is 65 this year, not retired yet though, hopefully later this year. We both feel it's a birthday to celebrate though so we're off to the UAE tomorrow for a week and I've brought a few extra pressies.

I don't do anything special for any of my birthdays. So it's totally up to you.

Every single birthday I just ask that I have all my kids, partners and grandkids all together under one roof. As you have to be flexible at Xmas and Mother’s Day to be fair to inlaws etc I just ask on my birthday to all get together at my house... and luckily they always humour me !

The year I was 65 & DH was 60 we went on a trip round the world,
(thanks to an inheritance fom my uncle.) Last call was USA where we stayed with DS & family; we celebrated my 65th birthday with a family meal out. So glad we made this big trip when we had the chance because I currently have some health issues and don't walk as well as I did. Carpe Diem!

You all sound so young!! On my 70th I had a big party in the school hall where I was a governor - the “ icing on the cake”
- the caterers thought I was 60!
For my 80th I chose to “do things” 2 DD took me to York - a long weekend of sightseeing, including afternoon tea! Youngest DD took me to a Spa, middle DD arranged a night in London and a special tour of Buskingham Palace, which included champagne on the Terrace! My DS took me to the Races for the first time ever and I got 2 wins! Lots of fun and happy memories!

No. 65 was 8 years ago and I can't be bothered. It's just another day and I enjoy and 'celebrate' every day.
I do go to my C's GC's and GGC's celebrations when they are in this country as some of them live abroad.

For my 65th I had a luncheon party with friends and my beloved Mum and DH. For my 70th birthday I organised a big party in a restaurant for friends and family but only one daughter and family thought it important enough to fly over and join us. Really with what I spent I think I would rather have gone on an exotic holiday but my lovely Mum was still with us and I wouldn't have wanted to leave her. She died 8 months later just short of her 98th birthday. This year is my husband's 70th and I am planning a trip across America by train as his present. He isnt a party person and has no family. My 75th next year will also be celebrated with a holiday.

It’s my 65th this year. It’s also my mothers 90th. As so many of our family are spread far and wide the best day to celebrate mums is 2days after mine. So mine is being downgraded. Fine by me.?

I'm with Kathsue. Personally I love to celebrate, andnow see that my own sons make a big thing of their children's and partners (and my birthday). I'm 65 next year...maybe it will be a little more low key than a 60/70th but will still be making it an occasion.....you never know how your health is going to be...or how many birthdays you have left...so...funds permitting..... enjoy x

80 you MUST celebrate, it is a magical number, well done for all who arrive there, 80 I mean!

We are having a Cornish holiday with all the family and dgcs and no doubt in that week there will be meals out eaten and fizz drunk, but hopefully we will have fun together and a good relaxing time for all.

Felt exactly like you when I was 60, but five years on and still going strong. Though I won’t be celebrating 65 will wait until 70?

I will be 60 next month and had planned a weekend away with all my children et al but because of recent bad health this had to be cancelled. We will probably all go out for a meal together.

I was made redundant just after my 64th birthday, so 65 was mainly noted for stopping pretending to be looking for a job to get unemployment benefit and starting to get a pension.

I'll be 70 later this year - I should have a party.

I had a huge party to celebrate turning 50 and an equally big one for our 25th Anniversary celebration. My 60th was spent quietly in Greece with The Wonderful Man who booked us onto a sunset boat trip - it was wonderful. I shall be 65 on the 2nd of September and I have planned nothing as yet, but I will celebrate it - most likely with a family party.

I did not celebrate 65. I had a party for extended family when I was 60 and for more immediate family including four GCD for my 70 th. and same group for a pub meal two years later. I can’t imagine reaching 80 but my mum made it to 92 so I have a good chance, I guess.

Thanks for all the replies! I have decided to go away for a few days to a rather nice country house hotel, which is more my thing than a proper party! I have no doubt that my children will be organising a big surprise party! (NOT, just kidding)