Our son & his partner have recently had a baby, his 1st, but 3rd for partner. Up until birth I could say son, partner & us both were all very close, but for reasons I dont really know I was asked to go home 2 days into my visit. Back story - had been invited to attend birth, or be there asap afterwards (we live maybe 8-9 hours drive away) & def to stay for a few days after, helping with other children etc. All good, new bubs is well, bigger children delighted, & new Mum & Dad seem to be just floating with everything. A day or so on, theres a few minor hiccups, & people are all getting a bit tired (there are 8 of us in the house !!) so I agree its best I head home & to give them space. Sad though. I'm adamant that we talked about it & why etc, but was rather gobsmacked when I was asked if I would come back in "a day or so & help some more". Im close to tears & leave quickly before it gets worse. Next thing I know son is super mad & yelling at me on the phone (once I get home) & since then our relationship seems to have frizzled. Obviously in my absence, with hasty leaving etc I am in the wrong. Now - I am thinking, logically, they have got a new bubs & although we all thought it would be fine, little stresses built up, & the obvious thing is to send those home that dont need to be there I feel hurt because they invited me to be there, but then seemed OK to just say, Go - but, come back soon. Other GP live closer so are visiting & helping lots, which is nice, but I feel envious & far away - should I just quietly accept our closeness has gone & be a long distance Granny ??
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