Gone off in a huff

I do apologise however for (wrongly assuming) your MIL might be elderly. I think the reference to your “aged dad” led me to extrapolate from that that both sets of parents were of that generation.

My name is mcem and I'm a phobic!
I like dogs, can deal with spiders and invading birds.
I've handled snakes and rodents - rats, mice, hamsters.
So why do I have a distinct physical reaction when pottering in the garden and being attacked uncovering an earthworm?
I know what prompted this in the first place. I know how useful worms are. I know they can do me no harm. I commend them to my DGCs.
BUT I react to them.
My toes and fingers curl up. I have shivers up my spine. I feel slightly nauseous.
I deal with it by downing tools, going indoors and having a cup of tea!
An hour or so later I go out to check that it has gone to ground.
It really doesn't restrict my life so I'm not seeking treatment but I do feel stupid !
When I was teaching, it was suggested that we might have wormeries in our classrooms. I told the HT that if that were forced on me I'd resign!
I do sympathise with those who have serious phobias as it's not possible to just 'get a grip''.

I had a friend at school who had a worm phobia. I got into trouble for protesting that she could not possibly pick one up and stroke it and she was told to pick it up but she passed out.

When (age 14) choosing our subjects for O-grades I just couldn't take biology since the first activity on the curriculum was the dissection of a worm. I really sympathise with your friend.
So illogical! Just can't rationalise it away.

I'm not that keen, but that just means that I am not that keen! I couldn't pick one up without wearing gardening gloves.

Oooooh no! Gardening gloves wouldn't disguise that awful wriggling!

I can understand it

OldMeg Regarding what apparently was meant to be an ironic statement, into which we were all supposed to magically understand the meaning and know the life circumstances of the author:
"^Why on earth should I think someone posting on Gransnet might be a gran^?”
and your reply about it:
"Surely you can read in that post that she’d simply made an assumption until informed otherwise.

No it is not possible to "read into it" "an assumption".

I noticed that another person was upset about what appeared to be a statement about GN being for grandparents only. I was upset for that reader and for any others. I though it's time for to give some moral support.

Unfortunately, most of us are not part of the Long-Time Members Cabal which clings to MawBroom and knows the arcane details of their membership.

I suggest if MawBroom, or anyone,is given to cryptic comments, she takes a step back and examines them for ambiguity. If not she and her Watchdogs will have to accept the consequences of being taken at her word.

You end with;
"Can’t say I’m impressed with the way a certain person has stoked up bad feeling and misinformation about this."

That is childish and incorrect.

Once again, I say, if someone says something which upsets another member who replies saying so, she must expect at least one other to step up in support of the distressed person.

I notice you do not try to defend MawBroom's unkind attack on the OP about having a dog phobia.

I haven’t been on here for a while to read replies, so thank you all. I am going on Sunday and I’m takin a dog treat with me. Hopefully I can give it to him personally as I’m working on at least saying hello to him.
The amount of ladies that have said how well behaved greyhounds are has made me feel better.
My whole life has been blighted by this phobia and stopped me doing many things and going to many places.
I have to face this fear because we are building a houseboat and will be living on a canal later in the year and you can imagine the amount of dogs that will be around.
I will indeed go to the doctors and see what help is available as it’s my time to get over this dibilitating condition.
I will let you all know how I get on with Baza the greyhound. Thank you all for your amazing help and advice, it’s muxh appreciated

Perhaps you would like a summary of salient facts about each poster's life and style to appear along with the post? Do you get that when talking in real life to someone you have just met or hardly know?

The thing is, if we DO know from reading previous posts that they are likely (or unlikely) to use humour, irony, sarcasm, exaggeration, understatement, long-winded psycho-babble, lists of links, or whatever, then it is not possible to forget those facts.

That was to Luzdoh

minxie I am glad that GN posters have been some help to you. When a poster asks a question, there is always someone who has faced the same problem before, and you get a variety of solutions. Do return and tell us how it goes. It should be an "interesting" visit!

Elegran
No. Don' be silly.

Just don't assume we know these things. It's the second time I've had a reply complaining, along the lines of
"If you had been a member longer you would have known that...."
because I did not know MawBroon's family circumstances.

The usual clique are trying to wear me down again so I shall no longer reply on this posing to any of them.

minxie Good luck on your visit Sunday! I'm really impressed that you are going to try and give the treat to Baza. Yes greyhounds are really docile and a bit stupid! I had one. She was so lovely and so elegant.

Did you see the interesting post (aaah so sorry! It's on previous page and if I look my msg will disappear) - so can't check the lady's name, sorry! it was.....
Post from a Clinical Psychologist (CP) explains that it's Community Mental Health Teams now? She says they also do Clinical Hypnosis. These are the safe people I was trying to say about earlier and only using them. For referral -your GP will know anyway.

I look forward to hearing how it went.
lots of love. L

mcem
I love animals so couldn't dissect a worm! Different reasons same result! Also in Biology A level I had to give up as I passed out over same situation regarding a rabbit. I thought I was going to be ok by that age.....
By then the timetable meant I couldn't do my next choice of subject, so I did Art instead!
Worms are important. Just felt like saying it. No reason!

luzdoh you are not impressing me at all with your misreading of my posts and that of others. All I’m hearing are excuses, excuses and more excuses.

I respect those who can acknowledge that they might have been mistaken rather than dig themselves into a deeper hole.

Oh give it a rest luzdoh and stop stirring.
There is no “cabal” of “watchdogs” except in your overactive imagination.
My family circumstances are nobody’s business but my own likewise my current dog ownership.(a 2 year old greyhound which I keep behind a baby gate in the utility room when nervous visitors come, and incidentally which I also muzzle if necessary although you can see how fierce she is. )
You or somebody got the wrong end of the stick but it is time to stop beating others as well as me about the head with it.

The usual clique are trying to wear me down again

Calling posters who disagree with you the usual clique would make it seem as if you are not a new poster luzdoh but I hadn't seen your posts previously.

Let us know how you get on Minxie
Greyhounds are generally very sweet-natured.

I'm so proud of you Minxie.

It would be crated not "caged" & for many dogs it's a place of comfort and rest. My dogs go in theirs even though they don't have to and can come out as gate is left open but like to sleep in there. I know quite a few greyhounds and although big are generally gentle dogs. As a huge dog lover I find it hard to understand people who are scared of them but then I have a huge phobia of toads and frogs and don't go out at night speing/summer in the dark if it's raining/wet so can sympathise with the fear. Do try and get help dogs are such giving creatures I much prefer them to humans

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Well! Looks like somebody left their laptop open and the kitten has been playing on the keyboard!

Reported BTW

HUBUNGI SEGERA PEN JUAL OBAT Apparently is Indonesian for “contact seller immediately”

Well said apotic

Is it a crossed line?