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minxie Tue 06-Mar-18 09:48:13

Hi,
So, I have a dog phobia and I've had it for as long as I can remember.
My Mil has a Dog and I haven't been there for a long time, (she lives two hours away) it worries me for days before hand and him indoors threw me last night by saying he wants me go with him on Mother's day to go visit. We had already booked to go for a Meal here or so I thought.
He told me I was selfish and making excuses, I don't Understand why I would be making excuses other than I'm scared of dogs.OH said they would put the dog in his cage, but that make me feel guilty. You can't keep a dog in a Cage all day and I swear Fil is hating me as his dog is locked in a cage all day. OH does a lot for my aged dad and I feel bad I can't reciprocate
So this Morning he's got up and gone out without word.
I don't know what to do

DanniRae Fri 09-Mar-18 07:56:12

Good Luck minxie - do let us know how you get on!! X

cavewoman Fri 09-Mar-18 08:09:01

Its an Indonesian pharmacy who sell Viagra !

cavewoman Fri 09-Mar-18 08:09:46

Wrong thread blush

ajanela Fri 09-Mar-18 09:24:43

Cave woman there has been lots of support on this thread but yours first puzzled me and then made me smile. I hope it did for the OP

Alexa Fri 09-Mar-18 09:34:00

Love the photo MawBroon. smileand yetsmile

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 12:38:05

Weren't worms for dissection in biology lessons were dead already? In which case loving them or otherwise would make no difference.

And one could always feed the bits to birds afterwards.

Yes, worms are very important. They make soil and are high protein food for lots of other animals, including foxes and badgers.

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 12:38:20

were

OldMeg Fri 09-Mar-18 12:43:56

Yes, very dead. So were the frogs, rats and ???? but don’t remember rabbits being used.

mcem Fri 09-Mar-18 12:58:19

Am well aware of all of that baggs but rationalising doesn't cure a phobia!
It's totally irrational and I'm the first to admit it!

luzdoh Fri 09-Mar-18 13:27:20

OldMeg Rabbit dissection - A level Biology 1966/7
Possibly rabbit bred by our Head of Dept. the famous long distance runner Martin Hyman, who gave us extra experience. A great character!

luzdoh Fri 09-Mar-18 13:36:28

MawBroon Just seen your photo. Gorgeous! I had a browny red greyhound about 20 years ago. She was rescued, not from retired racing, but from cruelty. She was very timid. My youngest was 8 when I got her and she fell in love with her. It was wonderful for her to have this gentle dog, as her father had died suddenly a few months earlier. Greyhounds are such wonderful pets.
Being disabled and unable to walk far, I have to have small dogs who can get all their fun from my, fortunately, large garden, now. I never thought I'd have small dogs, funnily enough, but I absolutely adore them! They have such character and are so funny!

Jalima1108 Fri 09-Mar-18 13:43:19

Weren't worms for dissection in biology lessons were dead already? In which case loving them or otherwise would make no difference.
And the frogs, in their trays of formaldehyde.
It could be a bit offputting if the biology lab was your form room.

MawBroon Fri 09-Mar-18 13:56:12

Luzdoh I think we are experiencing an online version of this.
Greyhounds are very special dogs, Hattie is my fourth. Some people might remember Gracie whom I lost nearly a year ago at the grand old age of 14.
I was inconsolable but last July met this little (or so she seemed because of her hangdog expression) girl aged 18 months who had been a racing reject, showing little talent or inclination for the chase and was shipped over from Ireland with a batch of retired racers. I could not resist her and now she enjoys the life of Riley in exchange for which she snuggles up to me, shows me total love and affection and has given me a reason to get out of bed and face each day since Paw died.

OldMeg Fri 09-Mar-18 13:59:13

luzduh A Level Zoology 63/65 (mine was a 2-year course) JMB, no rabbits.

Jalima1108 Fri 09-Mar-18 14:04:47

Our neighbours have a lovely 'racing reject' who looks just like Hattie.
When they said they were getting a greyhound I expected her to be grey. Duh! She's very quiet, we never hear her at all.

DanniRae Fri 09-Mar-18 14:04:59

Oh, I am so glad that I studied Human Biology at school because there is no way that I could have cut up any animal - dead or alive!! shock

Jalima1108 Fri 09-Mar-18 14:06:25

You didn't go on to do medicine then?

OldMeg Fri 09-Mar-18 14:08:24

I’m guessing all these people are vegetarians now?

mcem Fri 09-Mar-18 16:29:50

Not vegetarian oldmeg because it wasn't an ethical issue for me.
Just can't bear the sight of worms and the physical reaction they provoke in me.
The only reason I introduced worms into the discussion was to explain that such a phobia does make me feel downright stupid but I can't control the effect they have on me. It isn't so disabling that I 'd consider therapy but it would be very different if it involved dogs!

OldMeg Fri 09-Mar-18 16:34:09

mcem yes I can see that a fear of worms isn’t likely to impact on eating other, less earthy, meats ?

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 16:46:50

I don't think loving animals has anything to do with wanting or not wanting to dissect them is what I was trying to say, mcem.

I'm now wondering whether I can truly say "I love animals". I don't think I can. I can't say I hate them either. I can say I'm interested in them because I'm interested in life forms animal, plant and fungal.

I like seeing little lambs in the fields. I like eating lamb meat. Does that count as loving lambs? Or is loving just not appropriate.

MissAdventure Fri 09-Mar-18 16:47:00

We had to dissect a cows eye.. ugh!

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 16:48:27

I'd be afraid of a dangerous snake, but I'd still eat it if it was good to eat.

Phobia isn't the same as fear, is it?

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 16:49:46

My brother and I used to fight over who got the chicken heart to dissect whenever mum was cooking chicken. I don't think she ever bought one without the giblets. Perhaps they weren't sold without edible innards back then.

Baggs Fri 09-Mar-18 16:51:04

I think if one was properly interested in worms dissecting one would be fascinating. Likewise cows' eyes and other things thst provoke eeuw in some people.