How much does the society value you?

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Of course you did Bridgeit silly me .

I think my role at the moment is to tidy, clean and cook
and do the washing

Well of course I meant ExtraOrdinary,Gillybob??

Star bird not everyone who has DVT has it self inflicted! I have a giant liposarcoma in my stomach which makes me look pregnant/overweight! And as a result of the pressure of the tumour have DVT in my leg which require me to take blood thinning injections! You can’t assume that everyone who looks like they have a large tummy and DVT are obese!

Who you callin’ Ordinary Bridgeit ?

I’m boring as hell but definitely not ordinary

We ‘ordinariy ladies ‘are the backbone of society ?

I think my role is probably no different than many woman of earlier generations ie keeping it all going , being supportive , Domestic goddesses definitely ? financial genius come juggler! Adjudicator, bank of Mum ocassionly, firstaider , childminder, teacher, pacifier,chief cook & bottle washer ,gardener, bedroom activist ?bit creekythat one? etc etc

Now I’m singing Shiny happy people .

I was doing that to myself this lunch time looking in the mirror Jalima pulling ugly faces too.

Screwed up? me? No way .

I'm off to see if I can find any of DD's discarded Care Bears and to have a lie down.
I just sent a bagful of Care Bears to the charity shop and now I wish I hadn't.
(I did keep one )

Now I shall go off muttering 'Who are we - Why are we here - what is the purpose of life?'

We didn't ask to be born. Why should we be expected to justify our existence once we are here?

I still see my role as a back up for my daughters should they fall on hard times. I grew up with a mother who was in the WVS ( war time vountaryservice) and so always thought you should do something for other people. I have done this, years and years of it and now only help in a charity shop where most of our customers are refugees

The rest of the time is for myself and doing what I want to do when I want to do it.

I feel I should try not to burden society more than is necessary when you get old but I suppose in the end we will have no control over it.

None of us are irreplaceable, but that doesn't mean that we have no value. Our place in society is to simply be; without us there is no society, no community, no family. The 'roles' we have are sometimes given, 'daughter/sister', and sometimes appointed, 'bus driver/teacher' and sometimes they are chosen, 'friend/volunteer'. All have meaning and are of value and I can't imagine many of us have simply one role or can prioritise just one role over all others.

I am totally replaceable. I do things but others could do them if I were not around. If (or it is more a case of when) I need expensive medical care (eg hip replacement) assuming it will still be available on the NHS, I would ask myself, does my existence justify this? And the answer would probably be no, but then would I want to continue to exist without it being done? Again no. At the same time, what about the existence of those that are much younger, grossly overweight couch potatos on Warfarin for DVT bringing up children on a diet of pizza, burgers and chips to follow in their own footsteps? ( I have seen these on the bus and at Warfarin clinic). Should I give up my hip replacement to give them a stomach bypass, or to give a 15 year old a designer vagina?

Seriously, I feel a need to volunteer for something more useful than the U3A I help to run. There is more to life than just socialising and hobbies.

gilly, I think your post proves the point.

All society is a weave of different strands.

What is important is that people care - you do. Some people care in a political sense - seeing that as way to make society better, some care in a sense of carrying out caring roles (paid and voluntary!) some people care for their family who will pass that caring on in their lives.

Some people don't care at all and they are probably the ones who need the most care from the rest of us!!

IYSWIM

And, on that note, I'm off to see if I can find any of DD's discarded Care Bears and to have a lie down.

Oh dear , I don’t think I can cope with these kind ( and very over generous) comments !

On a serious note . Life goes on though doesn’t it ? I have asked myself honestly what difference would there be if I was no longer here ( and I don’t mean here, here ) . Okay so my DS and DDiL would struggle with child care for a while , my dad would have to use taxis ( jeez that would push him over the edge) my sister would have to fend for herself , DH would still get the metro to work at stupid o’clock but he could probably pack in work eventually too so that would be a bonus ,DD would have to put her new baby in nursery for an extra day or 2 ( and wash her own kitchen floors) ..... but other than that ?

I don't really have any sense of society these day. Our lives seem to have become very tribal.

No role whatsoever. The younger generations see us as selfish and taking away from them. The NHS just want us to go away as we are a drain on their resources.
We should not vote because we are incapable of getting it right.

I think the two most important roles we have are our work ( paid or voluntary) and human relationships ( family, friends, neighbours and other folk)

gillbybob
I don't think society would suffer in any way if I wasn't part of it.
I think it most certainly would

and so would GN

There is a difference between “society” and “ the society” - which society do you mean?
And is there a purpose to,your question?

Strange question, Justtryingtomakeyourlifebetter...? My role in society is just as it has been all my life. To be a good upstanding, pillar of the community. To help my family and others as much as I can. Are you insinuating at a certain age it stops?

What is the "modern society?" Social media? Fashion? Older people's input into grandchildren care, local community actives? Aspire to being a good neighbour?
Your question is so vague, maybe if you could qualify it a little more you may get more responses.

I feel valued by the members of a club i help organise. I feel valued by work collegues although i only work one shift a week. I feel valued by the elderly people i care for. I especially feel valued as a person by my darling sister, my niece , her daughter and my children.