I am border-line phobic. Was far worse when I was younger. Actually called hubbie home from work one time, when I had a young baby and there was a spider in the kitchen!! If one came anywhere near to me, I would need to have a bath or shower, and change all the clothes I was wearing at the time.
I was determined not to pass this fear on to my children and still say the greatest piece of parenting I carried out is that none of my children (or g.children) are in the slightest phased at seeing spider.
Living by myself I have to cope. Have those long handled things which in which I can trap them and remove to the outside (really do not want to kill them).
Three years ago I heard about conkers, and collect them each autumn and they are all around window cills, door ways, skirting boards, etc. Have not had a spider since then