Behaviour of dgd

Hi Ms. Ethel. It sounds as if you have tried everything else. How about a swat on the butt and refusing to coddle her when she acts up? Somehow I don't think her parents will like that, so, instead, how about rewarding the good behaviour but don't reward the bad behaviour. It sounds as if she seems to get more attention and rewards from everybody by acting up rather than from listening to the adults in her life. Accentuate the positive behaviour with praise and hugs and smiles every time you possibly can. For instance, you might say something like, "You have been such a joy to have around this morning, helping me/or doing such and such/....... Let's go have a treat, or let's read that book you love, or let's bake cookies, or let's go for a walk or let's go do something you like to do... just the two of us." As long as they are not unduly tired or stressed out, most children will initially choose to listen if they feel there's something in it for them. (human nature). Eventually they get use to listening and it becomes part of their behaviour. Just my thoughts. (\/). Ooops. That was suppose to be a heart. Looks like bunny ears. Lol.

I feel bad about some posters arguing. However some years ago when i joined i used to wind people up for the hell of it. I cringe now. I have learned to listen and respect others along with a dose of cancer that changed my attitude. Sometimes i want to disagree with other posters but i now try to do it tactfully. Btw dgd has not been too bad in the last couple of days and im looking forward to seeing her and dd again but im keeping your comments to mind. An interesting point is that my grumpy old mother becomes sunshine and light with dgd and they play together quite happily

I feel bad about some posters arguing
Don’t worry about me ethel and I’m sure gabriella isn’t bovvered either
I’m glad your DGD has been better and I’m sure she’ll be looking forward to seeing you too

Nobody speaks for me. I need no mouthpiece informing others of my feelings/views.

Bunny ears are fine Marilii!

And yes, accentuate the positive
negative behaviour is attention seeking - why is she seeking attention?
Because she needs some attention and to do some fun activities.

I expect she has cheered up by now ethel, if they are doing the planned child-friendly activities.
I am smiling at the thought of your mum and dgd (perhaps they are kindred spirits )

There's nothing wrong with taking a kid on a "cottage holiday"!! It's what we've done with our ds from the start. Lots of beach time mostly - playing with both of us and a quiet evening with a normalish routine for bedtime.

Just one DC or more?

That makes all the difference.