How to stop going on crying

Good grief- when I lose an animal I cry for days! That is quite natural. I think it is important to let it all out.
I used to cry over adverts on TV! Remember 'when they are up to Shredded Wheat they're growing up'? I used to howl every time it came on as the boys looked like my boys ( a bit).
I've often cried all the way home from a film.
Seriously - have a good howl & you'll feel much better in the long run.
Thank heavens for waterproof mascara!

Like others who’ve contributed, I find tears are never far away - reading this thread made me teary. Having shared this with my DH (no.2) of less than three years, he remarked, “You have every reason to cry, being married to me!”
Of course that turned my tears to laughter, which is one of the reasons I am with him.

I'm so sorry that your little cat died. Cry all you like. For some reason I'm not able to cry, but feel really sad.

I have literally cried my way all through reading all of these posts!!! I am an Olympic Medal-winning Crier ... I cried for 11 days after my Father died in 1967, literally without stopping - (and because I am such a horrendous crier, and I knew I would disgrace myself), I even made an excuse NOT to attend my husband's Mother's funeral (I felt that this would be so disrespectful, because she hated me and I did not like her - she had always wrongly blamed me for for her son' first marriage breaking up - we had not even met when he separated from his first wife!!) - I knew that even though I disliked her, I would still be in floods of tears, and I certainly would NOT be feeling sad. I cry at everything - even buying Greetings Cards in a shop is a nightmare, as I cry when reading the verse .... and don't get me going on watching TV - Even the most banal "Game Show" winner etc has me bawling - or a winner of a "Talent Show" - I am utterly hopeless and even though my beloved cat Leo died in 1982, I still cry some part of every day that I think of her, or look at photographs of her. I have sobbed quietly all through typing this response .......

It is nice to know I am not alone in this boat. Apparently, crying more and longer is part of growing old for many of us.

A big thank you for all the sympathy regarding the cat.

I hardly ever cry. Wish I could. I have friends who cry at every thing. We are all different and I would not worry about it

I think it‘s quite natural to be so emotional on losing your little furry companion after so long. I also grieved when my dog died and even now, a couple of years later, still shed a couple of tears when thinking of him.

I had tears in my eyes reading all these posts too C132 (sorry for shortening your name but couldn't get my head round it!).
My most recent bout of crying in public is when my husband and I visited the local premature baby unit to deliver some tiny baby hats I had knitted. Before we went in a nurse walked by pushing a tiny baby in a transparent cot. I took one look, started crying and could not stop. I felt such a fool but I had to wait in the corridor whilst my husband delivered the hats. In truth the baby looked perfectly healthy and I don't know why I started crying. But the thought of it has made me have tears in my eyes now.

Fennel, what is it about WW2? I welled up just reading your post! It reminds me of Winston Churchill on the wireless. And Spitfires and bombers, don't even go there. I am just old enough to remember the sound of them going over.

In my case I think it is for things lost - I was living with grandparents then, and when father came back from the war it was mayhem, we had to move out suddenly and I never got over it.

(Blows nose)

So sorry for your loss, you cry as much and as long as you want and don’t worry about it. Losing pets is just awful.
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My thoughts are with you and sending lots of love and hugs. Today I'm like you. We had to have our dear cat Biscuit put to sleep at the vets yesterday evening. An old lady of almost 15 years old who we adopted when her owner died nearly 3 years ago. She had been poorly since last Friday and took to hiding behind a wardrobe, under the bed and behind the tv cabinet. She stopped eating. A bit of a long story but it was kinder at her age to let her go. I stayed and talked to her as they put her to sleep and told her that she was going to see her 'dad'. Tears flowed last night but trying to hold it in today and I know I shouldn't. Although we have two other cat's our home feels so quiet and empty today. No queuing up last night for her supper. I tend to put a brave face on as so many things have happened over the last few years and had to be strong for the sake of others. We also had another old cat Rio put to sleep 23rd August last year at home. the vet and nurse came as I was told 7 o,clock in the evening. Watching the clock that day and seeing them walk past the window, on time was the hardest thing I did and went to pieces. I think too that as we get older there are more things to worry about. Ageing parents, relatives, friends If you have children, their worries are your worries. You go to more funerals than weddings. It is better to show our emotions and just let it out otherwise it manifests in other ways. In my case, anxiety. I hope our little puss cats have met up today over 'Rainbow Bridge'

I'm so sorry you lost your beloved kitty.

Grief is personal and people grieve in all sorts of different ways. I cried for days when my Sophie cat died....I still think of her often and well up inside when I see an old snapshot or find an old toy of hers hidden somewhere. It's been almost three years.

You've suffered the loss of your most beloved furry friend grandtante and that can be heartbreaking, so go ahead and have a good cry, for as long or as often as you need to.

Hugs, Willa

flutterby - I agree . Things lost, and also I think a lot of the tension fear and anxiety must have registered somewhere deep down. and still comes out years later.

I'm not a crier -never have been (since I grew up that is.) Used to cry when I had rows with DH but that rarely happens now. I didn't even cry at my parents or my brother's funeral. Couldn't, though I thought I should and was actually very upset. I am occasionally moist eyed at things on TV about children (even happy endings) or at school nativity plays etc. Perhaps I am abnormal?!

I remember being advised as MissAdventure. If you really don't want to keep crying set a time limit and stop. It sounds hard but when I was grieving for lost family I sometimes set a time aside to think about them and allow nyself a good cry and then dry my eyes and get on with it. But crying is ok. And lets face it when you're older there is more sadness. ( incidentally I have just listened to Judith Durham singing Danny Boy with my husband and we both had tears running down our cheeks!)

When my cat died in 2014 I cried so much I made myself ill and gave myself gastritis! I loved him so much and feel I prolonged his pain by hesitating to call the vet.

grandtante my people are in floods of tears when a beloved pet dies. For ages. It IS hard to get over. Don't be hard on yourself.

I have become very sentimental in my old age and can cry easily these days. I don't see it as a fault. So much on TV sets me off. I feel so helpless when I see the suffering of others.

Is there anything deep down that is playing on your mind, or grief which hasn't been expressed maybe? Try telling people why you are crying and maybe then it won't be so prolonged.

I cried my eyes out today and want say I feel better for it ; just exhausted. Haven't cried for years. One of the things I was crying about (apart from myself) was my dog getting old and being on my own. Self pity but hey ho!

I don't think that's self pity wot - it's just that sometimes we can cope with our day to day life and sometimes it all gets too much and crying is a way to release all the sadness built up inside. I hope you feel better today? x

I had the dreaded MRI today (claustrophobia) and it took them 30 minutes to get a canula in. Just got to me after the cr.p year I've had.

So sorry wot.

Thank you! I know others have worse!

and sorry grandetante about your cat. Its very sad to lose a much loved pet.x

Others having worse doesn't lessen your troubles wot.

If we weren't meant to cry we wouldn't have tear ducts! People say "oh dont cry" blah blah cos they think they have to fix you.

If I am tearful in joy or otherwise, if people look as if they are going to say something like "oh dont cry" I say "allow me my tears-I don't want you to fix me. Just let me be me"

They are relieved and you can be you. Don't try to stop them please. Tears are natural. Its other people that struggle with them