Mcem I had the same problem years ago with my 2 oldest grandsons, we (my son and I) always bought the "big" toys for their birthdays Xmas, but inevitably they would disappear within a couple of weeks, she was selling them. In the case of clothes I literally used to strip them, they always came in rags, and shower them when they came to us on Friday night and they wore clothes, shoes jackets etc we had bought them and kept at our house. I always bought their winter jackets shoes etc plus clothes for birthdays & Xmas but she never put them on the days they were coming to us.
Is there such a thing as delicious ready meals?