Oh dear Eglantime you couldn't be more wrong but I wouldn't want to spoil your ability to read minds even if you are utterly de-skilled in this matter.
OK DGD has only been to tea at BF's house once since they met in April oh and a BBQ. I don't know the mother or his sisters (both atUni) but I know his dad as he is a teacher where DGD went to school. BF came to DGD's 18th birthday party, and stayed over. DGD said it was nice but all very proper and best behaviour - and BF says he'd rather be at DGD's house as it's more relaxing and there is a room they can use for themselves. They're both musical and so piano sounds can be heard, guitar and tenor saxaphone.
This is not a case of 2 people battling the family unit together. Which 2 people, me and the BF mother? I never heard such complete nonsense. We are a big family and I've had 4 kids all grown (last one at Uni) and yes she has a BF which is fine. My sons are both married with children, and 1 DIL (mother of DGD) has a very big family and are great fun and very welcoming. BF's parents haven't been invited and I haven't made any comment to son and DIL about this and haven't really thought about it.
Ah well I've had a long break from gransnet or mN which I think will finish me off. I'd forgotten how people make assertions instead of asking questions and dish out advice based on a few lines of text. As some sensible people said I only queried the phrase "good time girl" (my daughter said I wish I was one! Maybe I shouldn't have given background info about BF's mother controlling him. One of his sisters said to him "you just have to stand up to her she's a control freak" and then said their dad was also controlled by her.
Oh and DGD's uni is 30miles from home with good bus and train links.
Been interesting to hear people's thoughts on "good time girl" means to people - DGD didn't think anything of it and I am the last person to try to cause trouble with BF's family or any other family.