Daughter in law with my Grandson

DIL and her son - Her son, her decision. If she asks for advice then give it.

buy her some scratch mitts? But be prepared to be told its none of your business .

Sounds a bit old-fashioned like the Chinese binding their feet but unless you notice that the scratches look angry then I wouldn't say anything.

I thought swaddling was considered a 'no-no' these days?
I can't keep up. Maybe its ok now.

Swaddling is currently in missa but maybe not next week!

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Oh, its like the okey cokey.
In out, in out!!

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DIL and her baby surely?

Yes, I understand its her baby, but I have spoken to a midwife friend of mine, and she told me swaddling is only for new born babies and must be stopped when baby starts moving.

Swaddling is supposed to help a baby feel more secure and stops very tiny infants from suddenly waving their arms in a reflex action (and perhaps hitting themselves in the eye etc).

However, I would not have thought it is suitable for older babies and certainly not to confine them to prevent scratching.

Any self-respecting 8 month old will soon let his parent know he doesn't like it so you won't have to tell her Pinky!!
And will probably pull off scratch mittens too.

She'll learn.

I would have found it inpossibke to swaddle a baby after the first few weeks. Babies are like mini Houdinis.

Maybe he has excema and should see a doctor. Poor wee thing .

I've just been googling, and swaddling is not recommended for babies after 4-6 months.
I call my grandsons, 'my grandsons' too.
I don't know how you're going to tell your daughter in law AND son though.

Maybe he has excema and should see a doctor. Poor wee thing
I did wonder why he is scratching himself Grammaretto

Probably too hot, being swaddled!

it is January
Wait until July! then he will really be protesting.

My DGC scratched because they had eczema. When it cleared up they stopped scratching. I would have thought that would be the first port of call.

Have DS & DDiL discussed the swaddling with a health visitor?

and getting too hot could make eczema worse

Poor thing!! Itching and unable to scratch!
The thought is making me itch

Swaddling......tiny babies yes. A bit older no! But it's her;baby, not yours.

Maybe he flails around so that she has trouble getting his nails cut, so she's had to think of something else?

Has she checked up on why he might be scratching?

I did hear that you should bite their nails rather than cut them

However, I could never do that; I had a pair of safety baby nail scissors (Mothercare in those days).

I used to bite my daughters nails.
I was something of an expert, having bitten my own for years.

Thank you all for your advice, I will speak to my son, I think he might be getting to hot as she puts him in a sort of a sleeping bag without arms. She also has put black paper on the windows so the poor child is in complete darkness all the time, apprently her Mother's idea.I would like him to get use to sleeping in the daylight like my son use too.

Pinky Get used to the idea that it’s DiLs baby not yours.
Every word you say will be taken down and used in evidence against you.
And if you try to get your son on your side against your DiL’s parenting ideas you are going to drive a wedge between them.
I’m serious. If MiL had ever criticised me to DH that would have been the end of our good relationship.
But my dear MiL was far too sensible for that.