I think I need help!

Out of interest, do you have children and grandchildren agnurse or do you just have an 'ology' ?

Yes! She has always been in competition with her sister AND brother and now with the other grandchildren. She is the middle child.

See; it's all your fault for having three..[only joking]. We can't do right for doing wrong can we.....[sigh]...

That's funny, Labaik! A lot of my unhappiness has come from my children's relationship with each other! I pictured getting old with lots of fun family celebrations with lots of cousins running around playing! Ha! My kids can't be in the same room!

I have one child.

I know; when our children hurt we hurt but when they're hurting each other it's even worse.

Bekind - ouch! So your problems are basically because your children don't get on and want you to choose between them? Phew.... not experienced that t.b.h. only sibling quabbles that I refuse to be drawn into and they sort themselves out.

Personally, I would NOT be drawn into it! Tell them ALL you love them the same and will not be blackmailed/forced into complying with acting against any of them. Then ....leave them to it!

Concentrate on YOUR life and your enjoyment. You don't OWE them any more than you have done. Don't feel guilty - just keep an open door and get out there living your life for you! We only have ONE .... Good luck and please please stop bowing to anyone else. Children/friends/partners anyone.... x