I am at a loss at how to advise friends. Their son is in a band and they have supported him since he left full time education at 17 - he is now in his early 40s. They bought a property which he lives in rent free and they pay all the outgoings. They have now retired and feel they can no longer support him to the extent they have been. They spoke to him and suggested he get a part time job so he can make a contribution towards the outgoings of the property. He immediately went into a melt down and accused them of trying to sabotage his career as he needs to be free to do gigs (he does one or two gigs a year usually in Germany and the cost of getting there is barely covered by what he earns). He is refusing to speak to them, although he did turn up at their house and dump his washing in the middle of the kitchen before stomping off again!
My immediate reaction was that he is a spoilt entitled little shit however my friends obviously love him and are at a loss as to how to proceed. So I am turning to the wiser heads on GNs for advice
Son’s girlfriend diagnosed with BPD
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic