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Secrets of a happy life

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Revolucion Sat 01-Jun-19 14:33:53

What are your secrets for a happy life?

Jane10 Sat 01-Jun-19 14:50:38

Low standards!

FlexibleFriend Sat 01-Jun-19 14:52:29

pleasing myself.

Septimia Sat 01-Jun-19 14:54:34

Being content with what I have and being realistic about what I would like to have.

Cherrytree59 Sat 01-Jun-19 14:56:12

There is no secert.

Life is a roller coaster.
Enjoy the good and live in the moment

Get through the not so good as best one can.

At such times, I try to channel my inner Gloria Gaynor
'I will survive!!!'

Are you doing media research Revolucion ?

KatyK Sat 01-Jun-19 15:00:51

No idea. I'm a miserable so and so. My DH tells me I'm 'like a week of wet weather' smile

Day6 Sat 01-Jun-19 15:04:08

I am with you Cherrytree

I have had some dreadful, really frightening and miserable times (which lasted for more than a decade) but after them the realisation that I survived and still loved life was a revelation.

I think appreciating what you have rather than bemoaning things you don't have helps. It also easier if you have your health and strength, I know that too. Get as much good out of every day that you can. Be nice to people, go with the flow, roll with the inevitable punches - and remember we are a long time dead.

EllanVannin Sat 01-Jun-19 15:08:58

Aw, not your fault KatyK.

I have always managed to find humour in anything and everything. I'm a walking situation comedy act ! Doesn't take much ! I got it from my dad then passed it on to the family because they can all laugh through adversity too. It stops you from going insane at times.

dragonfly46 Sat 01-Jun-19 15:14:05

I believe in accepting the things you cannot change, having the courage to change those you can and the having the wisdom to know the difference.

sodapop Sat 01-Jun-19 15:18:52

I'm like cherrytree enjoy the good times and do the best you can when things are difficult.

Revolucion Sat 01-Jun-19 15:40:03

I’m not doing media research, just recovering from burnout!

Oldandverygrey Sat 01-Jun-19 15:45:57

There is no secret to a happy life, you just muddle through.

Gonegirl Sat 01-Jun-19 16:11:59

That's an original thought Dragonfly.

rockgran Sat 01-Jun-19 16:23:34

Expect the worse - then everything else seems like bonus. grin

Helennonotion Sat 01-Jun-19 16:26:06

Copious amounts of red wine. grin grin grin

Gonegirl Sat 01-Jun-19 16:27:58

I think love gas got to be in the mix somewhere. Loving your family and being loved back? Something that doesn't seem to come easily to so many.

Gonegirl Sat 01-Jun-19 16:29:15

No. Not "love gas*. God knows what that is but it sounds sinister!

dragonfly46 Sat 01-Jun-19 16:29:23

Yeah sorry Gonegirl I couldn't resist but it is what I live by and has come in very handy recently.

Gonegirl Sat 01-Jun-19 16:30:27

Make me laugh EllenVannin.

Gonegirl Sat 01-Jun-19 16:31:18

dragonfly 😅 sorry!

rockgran Sat 01-Jun-19 16:42:08

I think we all need some love gas, Gonegirl!

Grammaretto Sat 01-Jun-19 16:44:06

A happy life? What is that? I wake up feeling happy some days for no apparent reason and wake up miserable on others for the same.
Happy moments: yes of course and being able to enjoy those.
I'm at my happiest, ie most content, when I know that all my loved ones are happy and preferably surrounded by them.
I agree it's good not to have too high aspirations. Achieve one thing per day is about right and it can be quite a small thing.
I think I was at my most miserable when I was a teenager and life seemed hard, sad and lonely. Then I met my DH and that changed everything for the better.

kittylester Sat 01-Jun-19 16:45:27

I suspect it's the character one is born with.

KatyK Sat 01-Jun-19 16:58:03

Also how you deal with life's traumas.

petra Sat 01-Jun-19 17:01:24

Kitty
Absolutely. Some of us are lucky to have the capacity to not let what my friend called lifes eternal quagmire get us down: I'm one of them.