Hello, I am searching for advice since I have so much going on in my head that I could easily make a disastrous decision
My daughter (32) has some learning difficulties and is in a relationship with a transgender (now male). I don't have a problem with this per se - she can be trying and would not have the same, wide chance of a partner. The problem is this: the "man" has severe emotional problems and these become noticeably worse when he has been drinking. He is unhappy living where he is and, because of a recent incident, is not welcome at my daughter's flat or she at his. Before this they have been staying for some weekends with me and I was ok with this as it made her happy. Last week the police became involved and he was removed from my house. (I didn't call them - the authorities did).
Because they have nowhere to go they are pressing me to allow him back in my house and, probably, move in. Of course, that will mean that she will want to move in as well. Advice from friends and the police are not to allow this to happen. I really don't want it either. I know that things will become very difficult between me and my daughter and there will be a terrible atmosphere.
I desperately need an outside perspective on this - perhaps I should add that the incident involved violence and the police were adamant that I call them if I spot him near my house. The last weekend he spent here he was very drunk and was verbally abusive to me. I need to do the correct thing to safeguard my daughter - if they are under my roof perhaps I can better protect her. I am so confused.
Shall we reboot our cartoons thread again? 😁