As grandparents do you drink alcohol in the presence of your GC?
A bit controversial, especially as everyone’s drinking habits differ from one person to the next anyway. Ive just become uncomfortable with my in-laws drinking habits and the effect it might have on my child, bearing in mind she’s only 5 months old at the moment, so quite vulnerable to be around anyone who isn’t sober. You wouldn’t drink and drive, you wouldn’t hold a baby/look after a child if you weren’t sober IMO, other people might feel differently on what they’re comfortable with and that’s fine for you.
I only ask as it’s just been brought to my attention following a long weekend stay from my in-laws, it was the first time they stayed with us since the birth, with us only having day visits every few weeks beforehand. Unfortunately around 10 beers and a bottle of wine was consumed between the two of them on one afternoon and I felt incredibly uncomfortable with them holding my baby, along with several beer breath mouth kisses on my baby - all big red flags to me! They’d conveniently “forgotten” that I don’t find that acceptable. You wouldn’t do that to anyone else, you shouldn’t do it to a vulnerable baby IMO! I let it slide, deciding to pick my battles, but it’s resulted in a lengthy conversation with my husband and limiting future stays to 1 night only or just allowing day visits as previously planned. We are not going to mention the drinking because they are unlikely to alter their habits as it is their way, and I also don’t want to cause offence by insinuating they drink too much and be blamed for it.
I would love to hear what other grandparents take is on something like this!
