FIL called up earlier. Don't think I've seen him since Christmas Day 2018. Says he has stopped calling because he is hard of hearing and can't hear the DC! Hard to tolerate him but he just walks on in so I've little choice. Have been NC with MIL since shortly after birth of DS2.
Anyway he's left me feeling like a shit mother, daughter, wife and daughter in law. During his visit he comes out with "I didn't like the way you handled DS1 when we came to visit you in hospital. I never said anything but I didn't like it". That was 18 years ago!
Another thing he came out with was "I could never understand why your mother left your wedding reception early". That was 21 years ago. For info the venue was difficult to get to/from. Even when I explained my relations (DM, aunts, uncles, cousins etc) all live in same village and had booked a mini bus to take everyone home, he still couldn't get his head around it. TBH I wasn't aware DM had left any earlier than the majority of other people who weren't staying overnight at the venue.
Recently he forgot DD birthday but sent a card about a month later with money and a short letter saying "I'd do more than send money if you came to visit". I asked him today what did he mean by that and he wouldn't answer, so how can a 13 yo know what he meant?
Now after all those insults he is asking us all to go to dinner with him and MIL at their house playing happy families as if nothing as ever happened! MIL has never called to visit or make contact with 2 younger GC and hasn't seen DS1 for over 15 years. DC never ask about them/her or ask to visit. He threw up the "I could be dead next week" card but so could we all. DS2 heard it all from kitchen and after FIL had left gave me a hug. DS2 has been the butt of his insults over the years too ... "why are you so short and fat compared to your brother" (none of my DC are short or fat); even though they both done really well in exams, money was sent up for DS1 and the message to DS2 "you'll get some when you're as good as your brother". Surely if he wants to rekindle some sort of relationship between GP and GC, you don't go round to their house and make all sorts of accusations to their DM?? Surely if you're not getting what you want, you don't continuously ask for more? Being old isn't a free ticket to say what you like and not hurt someone's feelings.
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