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So (as I read it) FIL (who you dislike intensely) comes Christmas morning and you don't speak just go into kitchen? He comes into kitchen and asks if you are not speaking to him?" You don't say anything? so he goes back into another room and asks your children to visit him? Wasn't exactly 'going behind your back was it?' You were there.
I appreciate that there may be lots of things said in past but you accuse your FIL of dragging up stuff from the past and yet when you had a day to ignore the past you bring it up by telling him how rude he was last year? He may genuinely NOT remember or thought he was being.
Fact is he makes you ill so why not encourage everyone to go and see them instead of him/them coming to you?
Please don't think I am just taking FIL's side. I don't know enough about it all but on the outside looking in, it sounds like he does want to try to bury the hatchet before it is too late. It is up to you whether you reciprocate or not but IF they rest of your family would like to then leave them to it.
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