Given that for most people the religious element has gone from Christmas, apart from maybe 9 lessons and carols from King's College, isn't it time that we re think Christmas?
For the first few years after leaving home I went back at Christmas. Mid twenties my boyfriend (now DH) and I went away for a few days with friends or got together with friends. His parents preferred to go to an hotel for their Christmas. As they (and we) got older we started visiting them again or they would visit us.
I remember one year some time after my FIL was widowed and a couple of friends came with the mother of one who had been widowed for many years. We all have fond memories of my FIL being chivalrous and mildly flirtatious with our friend's mother.
People make such a big deal of it when really it is just another day. I understand completely the joy and pleasure to be gained when one's GC are young because it can be a magical occasion. However, it seems to me that it often ends in disappointment. Mixing 3 generations doesn't always work. Some people are very lucky and have a wonderful time, for others it's not so good.
So, why not get together with friends who are also on their own or use the time to meet new people? Help the Aged (may not be their name now) organise social events. It's not necessary to do the whole meal oneself but to suggest that everyone contributes a dish.
I was prompted to write this post after reading another one today from a lady who felt very sad because she was on her own. If I was to make a New Year's wish it would be that there aren't so many sad posts next Christmas.
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