Mothers Day

I enjoy Mothers day as all my children do their own thing and DH and I have a peaceful day on our own!!

Seriously, I have had plenty of turns at it being my day - it's their turn now!

At some point in time the arrangements are bound to change.

I have always tried to spend some part of the day with my mother - however DH also has a mother. Our two mothers live a 2 hour drive apart. So who gets missed out?

I am also a mother. In past years I have often hosted both mother and mother in law. This meant me spending a lot of my day cooking and clearing away.

So when is it my turn to be pampered?

Your D's first mother's day as a mum Ceitdh, just let her enjoy it with her husband and baby and look forward to seeing her the day before.

We will celebrate Mothers Day with my mum midweek when it is quieter as she isnt great with busy places anymore.
Both my daughters are mums so I will leave it up to them if I see them on the day or if we all get together another day.
My dad was a pilot so as a child I was used to celebrating special occasions when he was home not necessarily on the day.My parents called these days moveable feasts!
I think the fact your daughter has planned something on the Saturday for you is lovely.

It’s time for you to step back and allow your daughter to celebrate her new role as a mother. Why would you not take pleasure in that, especially as it appears to have been a struggle for her to get there?

Chances are, I won’t see any of my four children on MD but that doesn’t mean I don’t think they’ll be thinking of me.

She is a mother now and her new family is setting their own traditions, and you must accept this.
Perhaps in later years you can all celebrate together.
What happens to the husband of your other daughter; is he excluded?

A thought. If, as you wish, your DD spends Mother’s Day with you, and your SiL spends Mother’s Day with his mother. Who will mind the baby?

Since our AC have become parents, we all go out for lunch/dinner or one of them "hosts" GrandpaGravy and myself on the Saturday before Mothers Day.

This leaves AC free to spend Mothers Day with their own children and partners.

They have their own families, and I do not need a special day to know that they love and appreciate me.

You have had years of having your daughter on the actual day and now it is time for her to enjoy her own first Mother’s Day.
She has opted to see you on Saturday. I cannot see a problem.

My daughter work in the NHS on 12 hour shift patterns and we always arrange a time which fits in around her work. Never, been an issue between us. It doesn’t have to be on the Sunday.

I’m afraid I find your attitude to be very selfish and all about you. You should be thanking the heavens that your daughter has through the IVF got her own child and will be able to celebrate the day with her lovely husband and baby.

NikDumpling, that's so like my sons ......they have to be reminded about these special dates, by their wives. My d.i.ls are mothers themselves and they have got their own mothers, as one daughterinlaw rather tactlessly reminded me. I will be fitted in somewhere, either before or after Mother's Day. My daughter is divorced and has teenage children so we'll probably do something together. At one time, special days meant a lot to me, not any more.

I think you're being very selfish to think she could celebrate her first Mothers day on another day just so that you can celebrate your umpteenth Mothers day on Mothers day.

Its her first Mother’s Day and if your DD had to go through IVF to get her baby, that is one very special baby and this will be a very special day for them. You’re now the grandmother and its time to take a back seat. Time to move your Mother’s Day outing.

All my DC are parents themselves. My DDs and DiL will be being fed a time consuming breakfast in bed made by my DGC. They won’t have time to think about lunch with me or their mother’s in law. I feel happy now to get a card. Or, from my son, maybe a last minute text when DiL has reminded him!

It's your daughter's 1st time as a mother herself, so it's natural that it's special for her. Her husband sounds very caring. You've had years of being with your daughters on Mother's Day. Why can't you be gracious and accept seeing her on the Saturday?

But husband wants to make a fuss of her as a new Mum to their child that's fair enough surely? I see no good reason for you to be so upset, family dynamics change just go with it and be happy your daughter has a caring partner.

At some stage surely it has to be about sharing - and that's normally once Daughters become Mothers themselves. A bit like Christmas, you're very lucky if. you think that the traditions and gatherings over which you presided as parents for so many years will just continue without change and forever, without sons and daughters wanting to create Christmases of their own. Sounds as if your Daughters have always thought of your feelings about this particular Day, and now one of them is clearly worried that her plan is going to upset you. Can you not talk about it and arrange something or things which will suit everyone? Hope it works out for all of you.