Son’s non wedding day

Do either of you have a garden with a side entrance? If so as there are only five of you you could at least meet in two 2m apart groups with a table centrally placed and a bottle of champagne on it to serve yourself - otherwise your suggestions and ideas are all good - the video especially - Yorkshire Creamery are now doing a deli box for 29.99 with several cheeses AND fruit cake - this would be lovely - their own portions of wedding cake with cheese - hope it goes well for you all.

This is my dilemma too Marydoll. I don’t want to make light of the situation but perhaps acknowledge it somehow. It’s dreadful that any deposits even, will be lost. The money we gave them will all be swallowed up in the financial loss. Let’s hope they can all get married some time soon!

Hi,
Some people have arranged drive bys, where everyone drives by at an allotted time, in a sort of convoy, no one stops and just waves out of the car window.

BladeAnnie my DOH and I were also planning to get married in Gretna Green too but on the 20th May. (both 2nd marriages too) We had planned a mini moon in the Lake district then a huge party and bbq in the summer but none of that is happening now. sad
So I guess we will be doing the same as you and your DOH.

KVW27 I think if you just sending a bottle of bubbly would be nice. Your son and future daughter in law are probably just feeling sad about the delay.

Why not gather everyone together on a Zoom meeting and celebrate together but remotely

My daughter's wedding was cancelled two days before lockdown was announced. She only found out when the venue posted on the website that they were suspending trading, before even contacting her.

As you can imagine she was devastated, organising a family video chat, was the last thing she wanted.
She did not need to be reminded that her marriage would not go ahead, so champagne etc just wasn't appropriate.
It was compounded by the fact that both the venue and insurance company refused to pay out. ?
This has happened to many couples, it's disgusting.

We even thought of having it in our garden, without any fuss, as all she wanted, was to be married, but weddings are not allowed at all for the moment.

A bottle of bubbly, a take out meal and a group video chat

I think what you are doing is great and I am sure that they will really appreciate it. You could also add a bottle of fizzy to go along with the cheese. The video would be the 'icing on the cake' so to speak and I am sure that they would be delighted by such thoughtful people in their lives.

Gillboo, I think you’re right actually. It is important ...but there is worse happening. Can I ask, did you send the champagne and cakes , and where did they come from? Thanks.(or perhaps it wasn’t all together as one gift..) My delivery would be for about sixty miles away so only online..

My son was supposed to get married last Saturday after 2 years of planning She received lots of flowers but seem to appreciate a beautiful bottle of champagne with 2 glasses and a box of cakes Her sister got us all to do videos that she strung together in an amazing video some messages heartfelt some so funny My Son bought a wedding cake cooked a meal on the day and he dressed up in an old white dress she dressed up as the groom and the baby was a pageboy and they did a funny video with the help of a few glasses of vino that had us all laughing the hard thing is just to get through the day but know there are so much worse things going on in the world and that they are safe . Hope it all goes ok

You could have a virtual tea party to share zoom or whatever medium possible. Each participant should make a big effort. Lots of varied cakes, posh tableware, glasses and maybe a cheeky game up your sleeve too. It could be great fun and the couple could have all their tea items sent them as a gift. Any good?

Have a look at Regency hampers they do some lovely ones which may suit the occasion x

How about a Zoom meeting?

I'm in the same situation - DOH and I were going to Gretna on 15th May then taking 3 weeks to drive around Scotland. Obviously not happening now . A second marriage for us both and only our children and 2 close friends would have been there. I'm disappointed but in the grand scheme of things......Anyway I think on the day - it's just us - will cook a nice meal, crack open a bottle of champagne and toast better times ahead. For everyone - not just us x

*sorry for the typing errors! Feeling emotional! Could also have added, they really planned to marry a few years ago but life has been hard for them in one way and another?-we really thought their time had come this year....feeling so sad for them...

My son and fiancée had the legal marriage booked for two weeks time and the wedding celebration (no licence to get legally married at the venue) for a few days after. It’s all cancelled and I’m told that you aren’t able to get married legally (or they would have done because that’s all they really want?). My heart is going out to them as this has followed in from an awful and tragic year for them, in another context. Personally, I have to say that I don’t feel it’s a date to celebrate, as non of it has been possible....but I also want them to know we are thinking of them. We are both regularly use Facebook so as trivial as it sounds, I’m thinking a message in there saying we are raising a glass to them at the time, could be appropriate. They hate a lot of fuss and I’m deliberating on the idea of sending champagne...although they’ll drink it, I can’t imagine them really celebrating anything as they just feel frustrated (and worried about losing so much money...there was also a honeymoon booked ...).?Any suggestions as with the original poster, would be gratefully received!

Why not dress up in all your finery whilst observing whatever restrictions are in place at the time and give them a fun ceremony in their garden. Cake, finger food, champagne/cava/prosecco and music. Perhaps even dress OTT. Make it a day to remember.

Maybe I am being thick, but why would they want to celebrate on that day? I would have thought they just want the day to pass quietly.

Have just celebrated big birthday under lockdown. So, of course, no family/friends gathering. No holiday. No meals out.

I had a lovely birthday nevertheless. Largely because of the family Zoom party organised by my adult children along the lines that vegansrock suggests.

It made me - and them - so happy. - Perhaps it might work for the couple and you too?[smiley]

Weddings are not allowed for the foreseeable future I understand.

Many pubs and restaurants are doing takeaway food now (to keep their staff in employment). Why not have the family all arrange their own takeaway meal on that night, get dressed up, and have a communal dinner meeting via Zoom?

Thanks, Cabbie.
That seems recent to me.

Have a family Zoom party? All toast the couple, maybe someone could do a speech or some readings or play some music?

Get close family and friends to send a video message on the day or compile them with some music to post on day. ??

FarNorth, other venues have been licensed for marriages in England since 1994.