I think it’s a reflection of our culture sadly. As we age, we are pushed to the sidelines. We don’t live in extended family units on the whole. GC grow up, move away and, or, do their own thing and part of that seems to be not acknowledging special days for grandparents. Judging from my own family, they still love you but somehow...they just expect you to be there and yet not be involved in their lives or them in yours. I have this to come but I recall the hurt of my own mother as her eldest GC lost contact with her, never remembered her birthday or Christmas and never rang her. When she died, the GC apologised to me saying she was sorry that she had never gone to visit her grandmother. Shame it had to be realised after her death.