I think that's just young people today. Haweral - I too approach birthdays expecting to get hurt, and I know I shouldn't, but Mother's Day, I absolutely loathe! Trying to juggle doing the right thing for both our mothers (and we're from the generation that sees spending quality time, and a nice card, and little treats etc to make our beloved mums' happy) as well as being a mum and seeing my children if I can, too, and as well as now one of them wanting her own mother's day with her child, is a logistic nightmare, and I find the only 'mum' doing everything to keep everyone else happy, but going without herself, is me, every year. It's my big birthday this year and I doubt it'll be any different to the usual. I've always tried to make it clear a present isn't necessary, more importantly it's the time spent, the thought behind it, etc, and I feel I should be grateful if I get a text to say 'happy birthday' but I'm not! Sometimes, not even a text. And a text takes a couple of seconds with no real thought behind it at all. If I'm 'lucky' they may come by and drop off a box of chocolates, and yes, I appreciate that many don't even get that, but it's like a duty, no real thought, and surely, as they know I loathe cooking and had to cook for 7+ all these years (until they all left home, all in the last 6 years), why don't any of them invite us over for a meal, or come by and offer to get me a sandwich and a cuppa while I put my feet up (bliss!). Or heaven forbid, take me out for lunch!!! I so often cook for them when they come over, but it's never reciprocated. I just feel chocolates are the easy option. I will add that I've spent my life trying to keep everyone else happy and making a point of putting others first and dropping everything to be there for them whenever they need me to be - so maybe it's my fault that they take me for granted. My husband just says that's the youth of today, not just our kids, but it's becoming such a sad, selfish world, with little thought for others, everyone is always 'so busy', yet they always have time to fit everything else in. I suppose I have to accept that they no longer have any use for me.....