I don't want to leave LO overnight yet

Think you've made the right decision all in all*Lesim*. Keep your eyes on that dog!

You are definitely not being unreasonable. As soon as I read the bit about the dog I thought 'oh no, please don't take the risk'.

Many years ago when my daughter was very young, my in laws had a dog that often bared it's teeth and growled at her. They admonished it, but when I think back it makes me shudder....

Wouldn’t matter to me if he was 10, with a dog that needs muzzling when he is there he wouldn’t be stopping.

If there's a problem you could show her this thread.
I think most on her are parents and grandparents and I think we are unanimous.

Which makes a change.

Here

Please don’t question yourself! You and your husband are right for all the reasons you mention.

A dog lover here (with visiting GDog lounging on the sofa beside me right now), but if your MiL has a dog which needs to be muzzled DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LEAVE A CHILD ALONE WITH IT! EVER! Sorry, I don’t generally shout but that dog sees your child as an intruder. The opposition. Someone to take his/her place. And s/he has teeth. Sharp ones.

Your baby. Your rules. It’s up to you and your partner alone if and when you leave your precious child with anyone. As Callistemon says you don’t often see a thread on here where there is complete unanimity - it may be a first. Print it out and show it to her.

vampirequeen

The dog is enough to make you say no. If she takes umbridge then that's her problem.

Agreed. Can I be cheeky and ask if umbridge is where offended Archers love?....

The child is yours. You get to decide where he stays, what he eats, and where he sleeps. Why does she insist that he stays there? So that she can flaunt the fact with her cronies? So she is one up on them? Ask her the reason she wants to have him overnight; not to give in, but just so you know what's on her mind.

Lucca

She thinks you are being unreasonable!! She should look at the bigger picture an aggressive dog, a young baby! She doesn’t call the shots, you as the parents do, very selfish all about her, and what she wants and expects, you say she’s demanding and never happy, good luck with her, I’m glad your husband is sticking to the rules too,

Lucca

vampirequeen

The dog is enough to make you say no. If she takes umbridge then that's her problem.

Agreed. Can I be cheeky and ask if umbridge is where offended Archers love?....

Live live live. Sometimes I hate my iPad.

You could turn the tables and offer to have the dog and they have your son. It is unlikely he will settle anyway and she will be champing at the bit to give him back.

You are not being unreasonable. I would not leave my child alone in her house with her at all due to the dog. I have a horrid feeling she only adapts her behaviour with the dog because you are there. Please don't do it☹

How about suggesting to mil that it’s your turn now to be parents & you don’t really want your child away from you unnecessarily. Maybe the child’s father should also suggest strongly & separately that the dog is jealous & a dog that needs to be muzzled is obviously too great a risk, absolutely no way !

My eldest GS is in his teens now , but when he was a baby my DIL used to lift him out of the car and put him in his pushchair , open my front door , push him into the living room , and I would hear the door shut and come down to make sure he was ok . It would have been handier if he had stayed overnight , but I didn’t suggest that till he was older and she and my son were happy with it
She and my son had some very early shifts !

No way would I leave a young child in a house with an aggressive dog, even for a short day time visit let alone overnight. My grandchildren often stay overnight with me but not at such a young age and only because they are well acquainted with me and happy about it. St ick to your guns,very unreasonable of her to expect t his

PS .
No dogs in our house !

The welfare of the child must come first. The dog is obviously a concern and it sounds as though your MIL isn't aware of the danger.
Stick to your guns.

You are not being unreasonable. Your MIL is being unreasonable. You and your husband/partner are the parents and you have to do what you feel is best for your baby/child. It sounds like your MIL has a dog that couple be aggressive and dangerous. Maybe if she would like to look after her grandchild over night she should sell the dog and get a less aggressive type of dog that are good around children. Your MIL is being unreasonable.

Think you’re being entirely reasonable - we have a much loved dog but if I thought it was a threat to our granddaughter it wouldn’t get near her. Keep trying with husband to explain to MIL your genuine misgivings and keep on trying to suggest ways to get together in a safe way. It sounds like you’re trying to do that already - she needs to appreciate that!

An aggressive/jealous dog! A one year old! A MIL who hardly knows the baby or routines! A person who is negative and critical! I think you know the answer. Put your foot down and keep it there. What’s with this overnight palaver for grandparents anyway? Surely the time to engage meaningfully with a grandchild is when it’s awake?
Seriously, as a retired solicitor I had an awful case where an aggressive/jealous dog went for a toddler who scarred for life on face, luckily not killed. Had even obtained a court order that dog to be locked away when toddler visited. Guess what? Owner/dad knew best and disobeyed the order, allowing dog in the house. Be vigilant, it’s not worth it and dog has already shown aggression. Many dogs are nervous of babies and toddlers, it’s not their fault, it’s the adults in charge.
Your in laws are being unreasonable, you and your husband are the grown ups here. Good luck, it won’t be easy but stay firm, it’s worth it in the long run.

Lucca

vampirequeen

The dog is enough to make you say no. If she takes umbridge then that's her problem.

Agreed. Can I be cheeky and ask if umbridge is where offended Archers love?....

Lol Lucca. I live/love near Uxbridge so that’s what came to my mind.

You’re just being a responsible mother well done! Don’t give in , protect your son. Maybe say this isn’t about you it’s about the dog. I don’t trust the dog. My son has to be my priority sorry. When my son can defend himself regarding your dog we can rethink.

You know what is best for your child, let MIL think what she likes and stick to your guns.