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Son’s wedding dilemma.

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Bluebellwould Sun 23-Aug-20 14:57:45

Could I please ask for your advice.
My son is getting married at the end of October. This will be the final family marriage and the only one after his fathers death. My husband (His father) attended the wedding of our other two children and I feel I really should attend. I have only been out of my house once since beginning of March as I am at risk health wise. There will be only 30 people in total, but a lot of them are nurses. This son has been absolutely wonderful to me since my husband’s death and I could not have managed without him so I really feel I would like to support him. We are a small family and our side of the venue will be very empty. He has said it is totally my decision. Any thoughts please.

queenofsaanich69 Mon 24-Aug-20 16:29:39

Have a wonderful day,it will give you terrific memories all winter,best wishes and Good Luck to you and the happy couple.

TrendyNannie6 Mon 24-Aug-20 15:31:08

Go and have a wonderful time

Lucca Mon 24-Aug-20 15:18:02

Get a mask to match your outfit!

mphammersley Mon 24-Aug-20 15:17:56

This is such an important family day, only you can make the final decision, but if it was me I would definitely go. Put your mask and your hand sanitizer in your new handbag, get your gladrags on and have a fabulous time. You will be sad for a long time if you decide not to go. Happiness is such a tonic. Make the right decision for you!

LuckyFour Mon 24-Aug-20 15:13:06

I agree with everyone else you must go. Have a lovely time and don't be afraid to wear a mask or face covering at any time even if no-one else is.

dizzygran Mon 24-Aug-20 14:36:03

Please do go and have a lovely time. Your son has been so good he deserves to have a great wedding. Take necessary precautions and enjoy.

Tweedle24 Mon 24-Aug-20 14:18:40

Have a fabulous day. Yes, it will be difficult as it is the first without your husband but, you would always regret it if you weren’t to go.

Most mothers cry at weddings so, don”t worry about that, if that is a consideration.

Enjoy it and tell us all about it afterwards.

4allweknow Mon 24-Aug-20 14:17:45

Go, definitely. Observe all the rules as they are at the time. Personally I wouldn't place much security on nurses being observant of safety measures. Seen too many ignoring them.

Madmaggie Mon 24-Aug-20 13:58:37

Bluebellwould. Go, go, go. You will be so sad not to, especially when you see photos.
As everyone else has said, just take proper precautions.
He deserves to have you there & you deserve to be there. Wishing you all the very best.

annehinckley Mon 24-Aug-20 13:47:04

Definitely go! What's the outfit like?

SusieFlo Mon 24-Aug-20 13:15:43

Go, go,go!

moggie57 Mon 24-Aug-20 12:51:40

go and have a lovely day .just keep your distance and no hugging ...

Issipy Mon 24-Aug-20 12:33:56

Definitely go. Enjoy his special day. Obey the rules, of course, but don't miss his wedding.

Cas70 Mon 24-Aug-20 12:33:11

I shielded for 3 months. Asked by my niece to give her away at her wedding in Kilkenny I pondered. Eventually flew there and had a wonderful 48 hours. The joy on her face because I had made the effort was more than worth it. Her Father and Mother have died and our family are few now so my word to you ?? GO. GO. GO GO

Soozikinzi Mon 24-Aug-20 12:30:32

You should definitely go make sure everyone knows you can’t hug etc but have a lovely day xx

DotMH1901 Mon 24-Aug-20 12:24:03

Go - venues take every precaution and, because the number of guests is limited to no more than 30 you can spread out more than the advised distance. Many are asking their guests to wear face masks during the ceremony too - pop a bottle of handgel in your handbag so you can wash your hands, or wear a dainty pair of gloves to match your outfit. I think you will regret it if you do not go along.

DeeDum Mon 24-Aug-20 11:55:15

Unless there's a significant rise in cases
I would say Definitely go, but take great care other than for photos, eating etc wear a mask or over head shield
Have a lovely day x

Knittynatter Mon 24-Aug-20 11:48:32

I’m so happy that you have decided to go and have ordered your outfit!
I hope you will update us after the wedding!
?

Sandrahill Mon 24-Aug-20 11:42:01

Absolutely you must attend! This is a huge thing for your son. A memoryFor him to last after you pass away. He can look back and remember how hard it was for you and yet you attended because of your love for him. Mask on - hat on- lippy on - and GO

Marjgran Mon 24-Aug-20 11:35:23

Don’t be spooked by guests being nurses (by all means check with your son re infections in their work areas). A doctor friend on a large London Covid Ward said only one of the staff got the virus, despite their intimate contact to patients, they took care. Go, and enjoy.

Dowsabella Mon 24-Aug-20 11:24:09

Have a great day - and don't forget the tissues!! You'll need them on such an occasion

Thecatshatontgemat Mon 24-Aug-20 11:16:15

Why are you even asking?????
GO!!

Carobe30 Mon 24-Aug-20 11:15:55

So glad you’ve decided to go!
Have a mask that matches your hat and style it out with all safety precautions in place!!
Your son will be thrilled!

Pollyj Mon 24-Aug-20 11:14:49

Go for it! Just take the normal precautions and enjoy it.

vickymeldrew Mon 24-Aug-20 11:13:49

Well you know full well you should go! Sorry, but you are one of the 2.2 million extremely vulnerable/shielded folk (myself included). Some of us are returning to a work environment as well. Having received the letter virtually telling us we would drop dead if we put our noses outside the front door and being frightened out of our wits, most of us have calmed down a bit. I was very scared the first time I walked up and down my little cul de sac, but have gradually become more realistic and sensible.
Do your risk assessment. Stick to the rules. Enjoy the occasion.
I would suggest a small outing soon to get yourself used to the mask etc and the new protocols. Have a great time.