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The C word - and I don’t means COVID or Christmas!

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Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 11:32:50

Last night while listening to a news programme , my husband called someone a C****. I was furious and upset. Logically, I suppose it is no worse than calling someone a dick or a prick ( where asterisks seem to be deemed unnecessary) . I’m wondering how many men use this word , especially in mixed company, and am I being unreasonable to make a fuss about it.
I can’t bear hearing it or seeing it win print, so coming from my husband who is supposed to be “ a gentleman” .........

FannyCornforth Sat 01-May-21 07:13:50

Hmm, that's what I thought Galaxy...
We might be described as hysterical soon ?

Lucca Sat 01-May-21 07:32:48

lemsip

think this has been done to death now so calm down,
why don't you?

Sorry but I think that is really rude.

Atqui Sat 01-May-21 09:12:52

Ooooh Lemsip Congrats! Who knew GN had appointed a new moderator??

lemsip Sat 01-May-21 09:16:22

Atqui Who let the child out?

FannyCornforth Sat 01-May-21 09:20:57

Oh dear ?

Galaxy Sat 01-May-21 09:22:56

You dont sound very calm lemsip.

Atqui Sat 01-May-21 09:26:06

Perhaps she has a bad cold !

Atqui Sat 01-May-21 09:58:23

Sorry that should have been Perhaps they.....

GagaJo Sat 01-May-21 10:00:32

lemsip

think this has been done to death now so calm down,
why don't you?

Good reading of the room there. ????

FannyCornforth Sat 01-May-21 10:17:39

Jo ?

Lucca Sat 01-May-21 10:28:10

Still think it’s rude. Does that make me a child ? (I’d love to be a child instead of an old lady)

GagaJo Sat 01-May-21 10:29:42

FannyCornforth

Hmm, that's what I thought Galaxy...
We might be described as hysterical soon ?

I can't be hysterical. I have no uterus to wander and induce it.

GraceQuirrel Sat 01-May-21 10:42:12

Sago

It’s a word that is only used in exceptional circumstances in our house.

It was last used to describe the c@@@s that broke in to our home, stole numerous items then took one of our cars and smashed it into 8 parked vehicles, damaging all of them and writing off ours!

Despite good insurance we were 10k out of pocket and numerous other people would have been greatly inconvenienced.

It is a grim word but occasionally the only one that will suffice.

Yes it certainly does suit some people and I am not adverse to using it when required. My mothers partner of 20 years was one and when I heard he had passed I toasted him and used that word as I raised my glass.

Missingmoominmama Sat 01-May-21 10:46:11

My favourite phrase to use on DH is “X, you terrible c***”, inspired by Withnail and I.

It’s just a word- don’t give it power.

TrendyNannie6 Sat 01-May-21 10:46:22

It certainly wasn’t used when I was growing up, but it’s out there doesn’t offend me, it’s a word that I’ve always thought of being the worst word to use, yet I don’t know why!

janex Sat 01-May-21 10:47:33

No l don't like that word either.

Aepgirl Sat 01-May-21 10:51:32

I abhor any bad language and don’t think it is ever acceptable.

moggiek Sat 01-May-21 10:59:07

Not a word that I use, but I’ve never understood the determination of any word as being ‘bad’ or ‘sweary’. Who says?

polnan Sat 01-May-21 11:04:51

oh dear. I have NOT read all the posts, went back a page to try and get into the present conversation, but still lost

I hate the F word,, the c word,, ages since I heard that..

so much stuff on tv is penetrated with the F... word, so I tried to accustom myself to it, by telling myself it is a language that we, humans , have invented... just letters jumbled together,, it never worked though

yesterday a trademan, a very nice man, came here, and told me how he and his wife had a complaint from his 6 year old boys school cos he used the word "boobies"

these woke people have a lot to answer for..

cupcake1 Sat 01-May-21 11:06:04

I hate it and would never use it. No idea why as I drop the F word now and then! My DH doesn’t use it (well certainly not in my presence) although my best friend has occasionally dropped the C word and I tell her not to use it! We are great friends and I can say that to her without causing any offence!

Frankie51 Sat 01-May-21 11:07:05

Swearing doesn't bother me if it's in context,eg someone is very angry or upset or in pain. Its a release. However I can't do with people who use it as everyday language, I have sons and teenage grandsons and I know men swear a lot when they get together.
The "C" word is not heard that often and it's to my mind the strongest one somehow, reserved for someone who is really horrible. I don't swear a lot unless I'm really upset. I never use the "C" word though . I heard my husband use it in an extremely traumatic family situation, and I had to agree with his use of it. Its a harsh sounding word reserved for emergencies in my family.

Theoddbird Sat 01-May-21 11:11:22

If someone used that word in my company I would tell them to never say it around me again. I never ever swear and think English is a wonderful language and think suitable words can always be found for any situation without swearing. I hope you showed your disgust at your husbands language.

Ellet Sat 01-May-21 11:12:47

I hate the word, can cope with however many f words people use but not the c word. My husband tells me it’s an old Anglo Saxon word.

4allweknow Sat 01-May-21 11:16:59

Never heard that word being used in this house either by DH or AC. Would be livid if I had. I was taught using those profanities showed a lack of vocabulary.

Betty18 Sat 01-May-21 11:17:49

Lol married to an Irish man. Just a part of the vocabulary.
For feck sake!