There is a court order in place to determine when the children spend time with which parent. That has been working smoothly since implementation.
More recently the father has told her that he will not be helping with the girl’s homework in future when they are with him as it impacts on his leisure time. Fine, we will of course help.
This week he told the youngest child (6) that he will not be buying any clothes for when she is with him, it is up to her mother to supply them. We don’t know if he said the same thing to the elder girl as she says very little of what happens when they are with him.
The mum really doesn’t want to use the girls as weapons but is worried as he does not send the youngest child home in the clothes she was picked up in but dresses her in old stuff that barely fits her. He keeps any new stuff up there meaning she continually has to replenish the clothes which are kept up there. She is a single mum, works hard, we help where we can. He still isn’t paying child maintenance, keeps appealing the amount he is due to pay.
He is very bitter that she returned to her home town where she has family to help her. He expected her to live in London near him so he could control her as before.
Have any of you been through a similar situation, does it ever settle down? We honestly think that now he cannot control the mother he is using the children as pawns in his spiteful vengeance.
