My predicament - it’s a long story

And contact your GP. Thus is affecting your mental health big time so a doctor's letter supporting a sheltered housing application will help.

User7777s suggestion of a park home for over 55s is a good option. They're not expensive and usually very nice.

Im sorry if I confused the issue, I’m not in a very good place at the moment …last night all our plants were ripped up and we found them on our path and doorstep.
I lived in Poole for 47 years and my eldest son still lives there.
My youngest is in Oxford. I have sought some advice and am putting in cctv for extra protection but am also looking at ParkHomes as was suggested. Thank you all of you for listening and caring. I can’t take any more, I’m just such a mess now I have to get away.

Just to set your mind at rest mincub ours and our neighbours oil tanks are against our boundary fences and no fires have ever happened, they don’t need a firewall.
If oil escapes then it is an offence, the environmental people will descend and dig out the garden of the affected property (and charge them for doing it) as it’s an Environmental Hazard not sure why you didn’t report the spillage at the time, many oil tanks pong a bit in warm weather , so that’s normal.

I live very close to Cleverley's constituency, my best friend in it. I have no recollection of fire bombs or police vehicles being burnt out. Where have you lived for 47 years? Sorry but your story does have some confusing inconsistencies. So sorry life is hard for you.

I think I’m confused now. I thought the sheltered housing was in Oxfordshire?
Isn’t your son a “local connection”?

do you have a town councillor? They are usually much more helpful and can be alot quicker than involving your MP

Well today I had an email saying that the offer of sheltered housing had been withdrawn as I had no local connection.
Having been born and lived 47 years in the same place literally counts for nothing.
Add to that an horrendous row this morning from my husband who just Says stop keeping on about it but truly has done absolutely nothing to change anything, I am seriously considering leaving, just going somewhere where I can be me again instead of having to bear the brunt of everything, that truly isn’t my fault. As for my son who is a nice kid but terribly naive and never believed how bad it had been at the height of the troubles until he came to stay and got beaten up at the bus stop on his second night and said ‘you’ve got to get out mum or they’ll kill you’, he thinks it will all be ok in the end.
You know it’s so depressing when everyone who is supposed to care doesn’t.
Thank you for listening to me and thank YOU all for caring, I can see it’s never going to end unless I end it…I will find a way …for me … for the first time ever, I’m putting me first.
I’ll let you know how it goes.

I am so sorry you were not treated well ineedamum. You really should not have had to do that. It’s not every housing association though. Having worked for 2 HAs in 5 different places, one local authority was not as helpful as the others though, and the LA, Police, Health and other services do need to pull together.

Also Minicub. Sorry for your police problems.

Not spaghetti, perhaps the HA you work with are OK, but my experience is different. He HA done nothing afyer going through the complaints procedure, I went to the Housing Ombudman who sorted it within a week. I was very, very lucky, they were running a business from home, a clear breach of tenancy rules. Many neighbours complained.

I was relocated here after threats to kill. I had cctv which was taken out by the police so I put dummy cameras up and small pin cameras behind neighbourhood watch stickers on the windows.
I furnished the police with over 500 hours worth, they lost it all it went to popf ( property other than property found). After that I made copies and copies of copies. When a police personnel carrier was fire bombed a week before my last incident they came to me to use my cctv!Ironic or what!

But yes, 14 bricks in 4 days is outrageous.

Having worked with HAs I think this is unfair. We always tried to resolve issues but evictions were made and police reports, agreements etc.

We did NOT blame genuine victims of abuse of any kind, we supported and rehoused wherever necessary. Often we went above and beyond and more than once used CCTV and sound recordings to help.
HAs have a tough job though and I don't suppose this will surprise anyone but sometimes the stories we were told were not quite as they sounded at first.

13 bricks in 4 days. Wow. Nobody should have to live like that. There really should be more support for victims of ASB. It's a completely different mentality and if MPs suffered there would be change!

The problem is social HA have very little grounds to evict so blame the victim as it is easier. The council aren't very good either.

I really wish this was taken more seriously by authorities.

Yes he is. And Blair was in the North East. I was just curious as to how such a massive move came about. No worries

Isn't Cleverley Braintree?

I assume the OP is living there.

Where are you living? Cleverley's constituency is a very long way from what was Blair's.

You poor thing... I know the torment of horrid neighbours. In the past, though, but my answer was to move. I now have CCTV which is good. Because these neihbours from hell hate being filmed. Or anyone knowing what they are up to. I do have nice neighbours now though. I was wondering as others did, about your renting privately. Or looking at mobile home communities for the over 55s. Park homes can be quite spacious and usually have a garden which you can make your own. You can live next to me anytime. You sound really lovely and thoughful

Thank you for al, your good wishes and for really caring, I’m going to really concentrate on getting out one way or another Ive had enough for one lifetime …I can see the only way is to leave them to each other and get out any way I can.
You can’t reason with them ….they’re from another planet

Then you only have the Oxford Sheltered Housing to go to?

I would accept quickly and get clear away from the area you are in.

I think your only option is to try to get a private rental. I'm sorry for what you are suffering. I feel very lucky.

Thank you, I’m overwhelmed by the kindness and the caring messages I’ve received here.
Smashing of windows or as the savages prefer to say ‘putting your windows out’, has been particularly bad in the past. 28 bricks and bottles in 24 days. Over Christmas once 13 bricks in 4 days some 3 or 4 times a night all through the night. This was costing me up to £1000 a bay window, once only in for 10 minutes before it was out again. In the end I got them boarded up and lived in the dark. One occasion when a gang of youths ran round the house smashing every window, in the doorway of the pub opposite men came out and cheered and applauded, yes men not youths!
Such was the mentality, I had Die Bitch painted on the front door and my windows shot out by ball bearing guns and boys of 13 or so sitting on the wall with a gun in one hand and a can of beer in the other, in broad daylight but nobody cared.

When the police came I was told ‘you wouldn’t even warrant a visit if you lived in Middlesbrough or Liverpool with this triviality’ which I know is totally untrue.
It was all done in the name of blame the victim, which is the easiest course of action.
I had people come to me and say behind their hands it’s always been like this here. I said they can’t smash everybody’s windows every night forever, we have to stand together, but no one stands with you…you stand alone and become a recurring victim, victimised for calling the police and by the police. I had some good officers, and they said ‘our hands are tied, but we know what goes on.’!

I have today spoken to Housing who have said my position has been re- evaluated and I am adequately housed. So I’m back at the end of the queue. My MP - aptly named Mr. Cleverley has not replied to any of my letters as yet. That’s not clever!
I won’t hold my breath…but I might buy a gun……..sorry that was gallows humour! It’s all I have left!

Was your husband happy with the sheltered housing?
Personally I’d jump at it as there will be no ball games over your car.

You say your husband doesn’t really bother with the incidents. Can you talk to him and get some support there?

What is your son’s opinion of what’s going on?

It is truly shocking how you have been treated. I can only offer sympathy and agree with everyone above.
Neighbours like these are like dealing with a pack of hyenas. I don't blame you for having no energy left to deal with it.
Good luck.
If you do stay try the MP route again you may have a good egg this time.

With the Oxford link i thought Churchill appropriate -
"When you are going through hell, keep going!".
Don't let them win it's your life.

Take the sheltered flat quick as you can. There will be many behind waiting for that so don't lose out, they will withdraw the offer if you delay.