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SeaNain Tue 31-Aug-21 20:09:29

I should think this funny maybe. And i am not so mad, more embarrassed.
Today, car showroom.
H. (61) and me sit opposite the car sales man.
Attractuve 20 sometbing walks over passing by h, to pass papers to salesman.
H. (loudly) "wow"
Short paause of silence
H. "You can sell me a car anyday".
20 simething shimmers away back to her desk.
Me.( Trying think im not sat there so speechless.)
Sakesman (muttering to desk quuetly)
"she does sell a lot of cars".
Silent pause again..
Salesman (embarrased, trying not to look at both of us but focusses on the computer screen instead)
"now, where were we?"

Now pse tell me girls. I know. Men will be men. Your response would be....

StoneofDestiny Wed 08-Sept-21 07:04:38

You are as bad as each other.

'Girls' on gransnet?
'Boys will be boys' he is a 61 year old man.

You deserve each other. We don't.

Ali08 Tue 07-Sept-21 15:38:36

SeaNain
I see nothing funny in it!
That poor young woman probably thought your DH was a dirty old pervert, and I'm sure she scurried back to her desk ASAP, possibly feeling sorry for you and wondering if he did this sort of thing regularly to belittle & embarrass you?!
I'd have let loose right there and put him in his place, and I'd have apologised to both members of staff for his crudeness and he would have apologised, too!
And then he would have left, with his tail between his legs!!
Would he want someone talking to you like that, or your children??

Lucca Tue 07-Sept-21 11:06:18

effalump

What are you angry about? That your husband appreciates beauty. He chose you didn't he? Or are you angry that the car salesroom owners actively employ pretty women as male car buyers probably outnumber female buyers seeing as the Salesman seemed a bit embarrassed. I think female buyers probably choose cars for practicality whereas men probably turn into 'boy racers' in a salesroom.

You need to ask ? In 2021 ?

effalump Tue 07-Sept-21 11:02:40

What are you angry about? That your husband appreciates beauty. He chose you didn't he? Or are you angry that the car salesroom owners actively employ pretty women as male car buyers probably outnumber female buyers seeing as the Salesman seemed a bit embarrassed. I think female buyers probably choose cars for practicality whereas men probably turn into 'boy racers' in a salesroom.

M0nica Mon 06-Sept-21 17:59:42

Hollycat we used to hang children for theft, that doesn't justify that behaviour nowadays. The same thing applies to half naked women spread over cars to sell them.

This man, unless it was an early sign of dementia, acted in a way that was offensive and embarrassing by any modern standard. In this case I would take offence and make it clear why I was taking offence. A man who does this deserves no respect at all.

Minerva Mon 06-Sept-21 10:13:42

Esspee

I would like to echo that if this behaviour has come out of the blue then the OP should be watching for other signs of early dementia.
Oddly with women an early sign is compulsive feeding of animals, pigeons, ducks, seagulls, other people’s cats etc.

This was my thought too. Inappropriate sexual remarks and behaviour could indicate early dementia.

Elizabeth1 Sat 04-Sept-21 08:29:07

A sharp poke in the ribs slimy old man comes to mind

H1954 Sat 04-Sept-21 08:14:47

I wouldn't have immediately said, quite loudly " please excuse my husband, he's not had his medication today " and then given him a very stern look followed by an ear bashing later on. What a prat!

Caleo Fri 03-Sept-21 23:38:04

"No one died - get over it."Hollycat you are funny ! I am still laughing to myself.

ALANaV Fri 03-Sept-21 21:50:03

I would have said well, this lovely young MAN can sell ME a car any day ............

Molly10 Fri 03-Sept-21 10:01:45

Lots of comments on what your husband is and I'm sure you'll agree with many and be surprised by some.

Perhaps one reply could have been on the lines of:

One thing we can be sure of is she will be smart enough not to get in any car with you.

Theoddbird Fri 03-Sept-21 08:45:55

I would have said something there and then and walked out. I would have taken the car and driven off leaving him to it.... If I had a husband like that he would not be for very long. He was showing absolute disrespect not only to the young woman but especially to his wife. What a horrible man

Esspee Fri 03-Sept-21 08:18:32

I would like to echo that if this behaviour has come out of the blue then the OP should be watching for other signs of early dementia.
Oddly with women an early sign is compulsive feeding of animals, pigeons, ducks, seagulls, other people’s cats etc.

Hollycat Fri 03-Sept-21 02:01:55

Everyone seems extremely excited about all this. Once upon a time it was considered “normal”. The Motor Shows in past years had nubile girls lying across the cars to attract attention and hopefully sell a car, race tracks were full of glamorous women draped over racing drivers, young women paraded round boxing rings with boards showing the number of the next round. Whatever the girl actually thought she knew enough to keep quiet so a sale might go through. No one died - get over it.

OmaforMaya Fri 03-Sept-21 01:31:06

Battersea1971

Im sorry, but I dont really understand what you mean by this. Are you working in a showroom or were you there to buy a car?

What planet are you on?

Buffy Thu 02-Sept-21 23:32:41

What an absolutely crass statement. If you wouldn’t have stated his age I would have assumed he was 18 or under. You obviously can’t rely on your husband to behave like an adult.

Mollygo Thu 02-Sept-21 22:54:28

I’d have walked out. Presumably you were both involved in the car buying so he’d have to come after you. Then I’d have told him not to embarrass me.
I appreciate my DH even more now. He’d never do that.

Cindylou Thu 02-Sept-21 22:33:41

That’s really creepy . I’d be furious and embarrassed

Msida Thu 02-Sept-21 21:33:22

Eviebeanz.. I would have given a karate chop to the neck that made me laugh out loud ????

Iwtwab12bow Thu 02-Sept-21 20:46:45

Oh honestly. Give him THAT LOOK you know what l mean. Then go off the whole idea of buying the car. Walk,get in own car,and huge grief on the way home. Sorry,no humiliation in front of anyone. What a pathetic man.

coco20 Thu 02-Sept-21 20:03:07

Poke his eyes out and save your money on the car ?

Beanie654321 Thu 02-Sept-21 19:19:12

I'm sorry but I think it is demeaning and wrong

EEJit Thu 02-Sept-21 17:58:25

I think Beloved would give me a belt round ear there and then.

Madgran77 Thu 02-Sept-21 17:39:38

Embarrassing! Inappropriate!

Susiewakie Thu 02-Sept-21 17:34:37

Wow how old fashioned and rude ! Is he like that all the time ? It's 2021 Benny Hill days are over .I wouldn't go anywhere with him ! ( Myself and DH are 60)