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Chookstar73 Mon 13-Sept-21 12:43:22

Hi all
We have a daughter who has changed from being a huge off the bone meat eater to meeting her partner and now has turned vegan. All the things she has been bought up on have gone out the window to join the partners view. We have five children and all have beautiful, polite and respectful partners and have bought us many fantastic grandchildren to the world.
How can one person come into her life, change her dramatically to follow his views and values and forget the wonderful things we have given her. We feel he has manipulated her and all the other children dislike him especially what he is doing to her.
I feel like I don’t want to be around her as every time I cry as I feel I have totally lost connection.
I’m so upset and don’t know what to do ?

Madgran77 Wed 15-Sept-21 21:26:11

My point being that the use of the "off the bone meat eater" phrase does not suggest its just a made up post ... I think it is likely that Chookstar will not return ...either because she has been put off by the way the thread has gone or because she has calmed down and found a way through it all for herself.

If you are still around Chookstar I hope that the latter is the case

Smileless2012 Wed 15-Sept-21 22:18:33

Really Bibbity, you were joking. Well exclamation marks usually denote a strong reaction/opinion and lol or grin is what people normally put to show they're joking.

I'm not trying to fight her corner, just respond without having a laugh at her expense.

Maine52 Wed 15-Sept-21 22:51:09

Hi everyone
My daughtet immigrated to Ireland from South Africa 3 years ago, when my grandson was 2. I was very close to him as i was his caregiver before the immigration. After visiting the first year he remenbered ne and we were still close.
Since Covid i have been unable to visit. He is now 5 and wont even speak to me on the telephone. He gets rude and cheeky.
Is this a 5 year old thingl Have i lost my close connection to him.
He us a very spolt little boy. Has this contributed to his behaviour.
My daughter is about to have a 2nd baby who i will be unable to bond with. I feel like i have lost my family. I have no other children.
I hope to visit in November.sad

Lucca Wed 15-Sept-21 22:53:26

Maine52. You should maybe start a new thread ?

Madgran77 Thu 16-Sept-21 18:43:00

Maine52 you need to start a new thread. To do thatclick on "Forums" at top of page; choose which forum you want to post in from list (Grandparenting? Relationships? Ask a Gran? could be appropriate?) Click on that forum in the list. Then click on "start a new thread" at top of page, choose title for your thread then you can type in what you want to say. Then press post at bottom of page

Norah Fri 17-Sept-21 15:31:45

Chookstar73 Have you found a way to tolerate the food choices of your adult D?