Am I in the wrong

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Lollipop I am sorry if the lighthearted comments regarding deleted posts are upsetting, they are not intended that way. We are all genuinely concerned that you find the help that you need to move forward both physically and in your decision- making as you go forward. Please do take note of suggestions for finding support, including from Gransnet.

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Have a look through this Lollipoplove you can get emotional, physical and financial support:

www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/get-help

Lollipoplove it's clear that you are in a very vulnerable frame of mind just now.

Please look for help from professional people such as your GP and AgeUK, so that there is not too much of a burden on your daughter.

Please don't try to pressure your daughter in the way you described in your first post.
Do what is best for yourself without depending on her.

Helpful link Violetsky. Hope it is useful Lollipop

VioletSky

I'm so sorry you have received such an awful diagnosis. Please find and join a support group for it so that you have access to support for all the feelings this has brought up for you.

What did you and your son in law fight about? Is it something you have addressed with him since? Are there problems he has pointed out that you need to listen to?

What did your son in laws mum do when they fell out to make things right again when he felt left out?

Please do not sacrifice yourself to make a point to your daughter. Don't put her in the middle between you and her husband and then punish her for not siding with you by refusing your own treatment.

If you still have a good relationship with your daughter, invite her over, spend time with her... Figure out how to heal this rift with her. Don't use emotional blackmail to force your own way.

Please see a doctor to help you cope with this

This is spot on!!

I hope you have sorted things out, lollipoplove. I'd hate to put any of my children or GC in such an awful position, and it could just as easily backfire!!
I hope you chose chemo. Good luck.