Sleeping alone

Ohhh, I love being in my own bedroom and in my own bed alone. For 15 years now. To myself, it is magic.

Apart from my \Teddy.

Separate rooms since he finished work at 50 and I had to set alarm for 5 to get up at 5:30 ( pain killers to get out of bed) so I could go to work at 5:45. He snores horrendously and refused to be in bed before 1 a.m. So I consider he instigated the change which has been permanent for 26 years. I would never…ever share a bed again…. even though I retired five years ago I still wake at 5 and am up at 6. I love my aloneness… which is not the same as lonely!

Kim19 I'm the same, still sleep on one side, not the middle. Means I can reach the radio. My husband has a double in another bedroom. Been like this for years now. Works well for us as don't sleep well, his snoring, going to loo, my internal thermostat, illness. If we ever go to a hotel, it's always twin beds now. Good decision for us and can read, listen to radio etc in peace.

DH’s snoring heralded the call to sleeping alone, a good few years ago now. Best thing I ever did, would never share my lovely bed with anyone again.

Another one here that has a double bed but sleeps like I'm hanging on edge of a pricpice.

Dh was poorly so had to let the double bed go, I had single bed in small bedroom, Dh had a hospital bed.

When he died I couldn't sleep I that roomfor about 2 yrs, but did move back I along with my single bed, that was 7 yrs, ago.

Around 18 months ago I hummed n arred about going back to a double,But I still cannot sleep in the middle or on Dh side. I seem to sleep on what feels like about 12 inch of the mattress! It's like I have to still leave room for someone.

I have slept alone since my DH died 6 years ago. I miss him, but it's lovely to have the bed to myself. No more snores to keep me awake, or fighting for the bedclothes, and no more freezing feet. No more waking when he made one of his numerous trips to the bathroom. I can go to bed and get up when I like, and read as long as I like. My worst experience was when he lashed out, in his sleep, and belted me in the mouth. Heaven knows what he was dreaming about because he usually lay like a log, but he split my tooth and it had to be removed.
I will never share my bed with anyone, ever again!

Have slept alone in my king size bed since losing DH very suddenly 3 yrs ago. One of the dogs usually jumps up during the night. I have never considered moving to a different bed or bedroom and still sleep on my side of the bed. I feel that being in the same bed we shared brings me closer to him.

Sashabel

I love having my double bed to myself. Since my partner and I split up 6 years ago sleeping alone has been a godsend. It was one of the many things that improved in my life when he finally left. I could never share a bed with anyone again.

My feelings too
I love having my bed all to myself
Its bliss

Oh Lucy...

I have slept alone for many years and would be unable to sleep with someone else in my bed. I see nothing wrong with separate bedrooms or at least separate beds. Even when I was younger I preferred sleeping alone. You can still have your "cuddle" times, but it's much nicer to get a solid nights sleep and be in a pleasant frame of mind.

We have had separate rooms for over twenty years now. My husband snores very loudly and I am a light sleeper. I think there are many couples who sleep separately but won’t admit it. I made the decision after seeing a neighbour who always looked dreadful because she got no sleep but her husband refused to sleep apart because it was the end of the marriage in his eyes. She died years before him and I think sleep deprivation may have been a factor.

LucyW - I know just how you feel.

I often wish we had separate rooms when there is snoring going on, or talking in his sleep,I wont put the light on in case it disturbs him and he would moan if the light was on if he woke up. Ladies enjoy your peace ni seperate rooms

The grass is not always greener. Enjoy having the bed to yourself ?

LucyW No words. Just, sincerely ?

My hubby was a snorer and had irritable leg syndrome and I often used to say we will get separate beds,BUT I would give anything to have him back for just one night so I could tell him how much I had always loved him and he could snore and twitch his legs as much as he needed. Think about it ladies make the most of the time you have with them and enjoy your lives. I never got the chance really because it was only 4 days from him going into hospital and passing away.

Around 15 years ago me and my partner slept in separate rooms, it was great.
A few months later we lived in separate homes, that was even better.

We sleep alone due to me having fybromyalgia and his snoring. When we met we were on different working shifts so we decided then to sleep separate

We are in separate rooms, just across the hall from each other.
MrOops has a Tempur mattress which hurts my back , I have a mattress that hurts his.
He has the heating on and an electric blanket, I have my heating off and a light duvet.
He goes to bed at 1am, I go to bed and read with the light on which annoyed him.
We woke each other up in the night going to the bathroom.
I wake up early and either read or go on my iPad, he wants to sleep until whatever time he wants and complained that I was waking him up.
Solution found and we both have a good nights sleep and are both happy with the arrangement.

Hi jenny, would you mind telling me which sofa bed you bought please? Like yours my husband is not well so I sometimes need to sleep in the spare room. We have bunk beds which is not ideal so I would like to buy a sofa beds but am unable to find a comfortable one. Thank you

I would love to have separate rooms but my husband just won’t have it unless it’s absolutely necessary. He hates it I love it, he is an insomniac fidgety most of the night. At the moment I have a broken ankle so he is in the spare room, but every day he asks when he can come back.

DC64

Every so often I sleep in the spare bedroom - I can have the window open and have my meditation app on - my other half is nesh, snores for England and puts the light on when he comes to bed even though he knows it wakes me up - not the most considerate soul. So I love sleeping in the spare bedroom!

I’d forgotten the ‘open window’ factor. Unless it’s the height of summer, dh has never liked it open more than a crack, and my side of the bed was too far from fresh air coming in.
In the other room I have it open rather more than a crack every night - and I’m on the window side of the bed. ?

We’d hate separate rooms, pretty compatible sleep wise, we have a split electric blanket, my side goes on before bed, his doesn’t, one window open in all weathers. One of my comforts and I think his, is holding hands as we drift off, I treasure it.

hcw1, my husband used to call me a happy nut case. I guess some things never change in