Shocked I think.

Watching porn replaces intimacy with her husband? Strange.

Is this real? I’d feel repulsed by her, not ‘a little sad’.

I am not into porn myself but to each their own.

Why was she showing her age as she used to frequent beauty parlours?

Yes it is real. I told my DH when I got home and he said she had always been a’show off’ and this was her at it again, and to just forget it. Difficult though

Her hair was grey ( not blonde) and she was very wrinkly. We are both 77 years old, which is why ,I find this porn stuff odd

If your friend is on Gransnet you might not be getting a Christmas card this year.

Yuck

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It does seem sad but I would feel uncomfortable being around her. The fact that she showed you is a bit disturbing. It should be kept private if she needs porn in her life.

Bloody hell fire. That’s revolting

Mother and son porn? As far as I am concerned that would be the end of the friendship there and then.

In my world incest is on a list with paedophilia as no go areas and that includes the people who view it.

I wonder what your reaction would have been if she had 'confessed' to using Sex Toys instead of porn? Is your objection to the use of porn, or, simply to a 77 year old having sexual needs?

As M0nica says I would end the friendship.
Not just because of the ethics and morality, but also because I’d find her repellent.
I wouldn’t be able to help it - it’s a visceral thing

No none of thatGranny23 I think it was the ease with which she showed it to me. As if I might think it was fine, usual, or whatever. It didn’t seem to occur to her that I might not want to see something like that. And really I do not consider her a friend nowadays. I was very upset though.

Surely as others have sud, the issue is incestuous pornography. I’ve never wanted to, or used porn but why anyone would want to watch incest let alone tell someone the don’t really know is beyond me

I'm with Lucca - yuck. I don't think anyone objects to a 77 year old having sexual needs but mother and son porn is just disgusting . I would be wondering if your friend is developing some sort of dementia. I have heard that some forms of dementia can result in very inappropriate behaviour

Sick ?

anna7 just what my DH thought.Though like he said the people in the video were just actors and not a real mother and son. I will try to forget about it.

Good Lord! If I ever used such a site - or any porn site come to that - I’d certainly keep it to myself!

And yes, it’s true that dementia can give rise to highly inappropriate sexual behaviour. I’ve usually heard of it in men, though, making e.g. advances to their own daughter (having forgotten who she is, or mistaking her for his dead wife) or masturbating in public. ?

The issue is not to do with porn or her showing off it’s that she is needing to watch incestuous porn which needs confronting not condoning I m afraid my big mouth would have told her what I thought of her choice of porn I certainly wouldn’t have sat quietly
I don’t feel remotely sad for her, she can watch porn till her eyes drop out, but this is sick and incest is against the law

Granny23 Does it make no difference to you that the site she was looking at was incestuous? Would you not be turned off that a married women with children, probably with sons, was looking at sites showing sex, allegedly, between mothers and sons'

Why on earth should her age come into it. That aspect never even occurred to me and in this day and age I cannot think why it should occur to anyone.

Very embarrassing for you. What a thing to show you! Fair enough to have normal sex sites but not to show people and I'm with the others regarding it being incest and not on however probably wasn't actual mother and son - I hope! Why show someone your apps anyway? Who would be interested! I hate it when people have their phones on the table. It makes you feel unimportant. Don't mind if they are expecting important call but not necessary otherwise.

Well I smiled.
Not because of the porn, or her need for the porn, more the thought that grey hair at 77 was 'ageing'. Most people have grey hair in their 70s, many people dye it - maybe most people dye it, but it hardly matters in the long run.
However I don't think I'd be cultivating this friendship. What a shame.

Is she ill? Watching pornography is her choice. Showing what is possibly(?) an illegal site over coffee, with a friend she rarely sees, sounds like the sort of inappropriate behaviour that can come with some mental and some brain conditions that are caused by frontal lobe dysfunction.