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Are You A Negative Person

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TheodoraP Thu 21-Apr-22 07:43:49

I have recently been told that I am a negative person

I definitely don't see myself that way. I have come through a lot in my life and feel that if I couldn't see the positives I would not still be standing.

So I don't really know why I was called that. I do admit though that I feel more comfortable dealing with criticism rather than some one saying something nice

Serendipity22 Thu 21-Apr-22 07:53:02

The words Serendipity and negative do not belong in the same sentence. smilesmilesmilesmile

Marydoll Thu 21-Apr-22 08:00:48

I am a positive person, but my DH the exact opposite.

Rosalyn69 Thu 21-Apr-22 08:22:40

Eeyore.

Scribbles Thu 21-Apr-22 08:23:21

I tend to be a "glass half empty" person, always seeing the potential downside of any situation and I have been called negative as a result. A course of CBT has helped and I'm working on being a bit more upbeat (but not turning into Pollyanna).

Redhead56 Thu 21-Apr-22 08:34:44

People who throw words at someone else are usually that way themselves. It’s a built in defence mechanism I have been told I am opinionated. I can be so I don’t argue about it but the person who said it is extremely opinionated.
People in glass houses term comes to mind if someone does not like what they hear they throw it back.

Calpurnia Thu 21-Apr-22 08:39:15

Definitely not. The only negative thing about me is my blood group -O neg.

Curlywhirly Thu 21-Apr-22 08:41:53

Yes, unfortunately I am a real worrier, glass half empty etc. But you wouldn't know it if you met me, I'm really outgoing and sociable!

lixy Thu 21-Apr-22 08:55:54

Positivity here, though I do work very hard to make sure I have back up plans B through to Z up my sleeve before embarking on anything major. In some people's eyes that would count as negative worrying I guess - just a matter of perspective.

DH's motto is Prior Planning Prevents Poor Results

TerriBull Thu 21-Apr-22 09:21:15

Yes I'm afraid I am, a bit of a glass half empty person, I don't like that about myself sad it's often bound up with worrying, which I think women are more prone to do.

There is a positive about being negative though, life can only get better smile

Coastpath Thu 21-Apr-22 09:25:03

I'm positive Pollyanna. I think I have become even more so as I've got older. I realised I had spent a lot of time feeling negative about things and worrying about negative outcomes and that even when bad things happened the world rarely came crashing right down and there was still good stuff happening. It made me look on the bright side a bit more.

Kate1949 Thu 21-Apr-22 09:40:55

I am very negative. I haven't got a positive bone in my body. My life has been negative. I have found that in the past when I've tried to look on the bright side, something horrible happens. I find it hard to see anything nice about life. I find life frightening. My husband is the opposite and for some reason puts up with me and continues to be positive.

nadateturbe Thu 21-Apr-22 09:53:26

I'm a combination of positive/negative/and realistic, depending on how I feel at any given moment.
I'm sure that doesn't make sense to anyone.

Kalu Thu 21-Apr-22 09:59:25

I’m a positive type too, DH, not so but I do wish he could see the brighter side of life for his own sake.

timetogo2016 Thu 21-Apr-22 10:08:45

I`m neither one or the other.
Take what life throws at me and deal with it as best as i can.

henetha Thu 21-Apr-22 10:11:13

Same here Calpurnia. smile
Only my blood is negative.

Blossoming Thu 21-Apr-22 10:29:52

I’m relentlessly cheerful most of the time, with the occasional meltdown when the medical stuff overwhelms me.

I think if you voice opposition or point out problems that might be seen as negative even though you are giving constructive criticism.

Smileless2012 Thu 21-Apr-22 10:54:59

Makes perfect sense to me nadateturbe because I'm the same smile.

PinkCosmos Thu 21-Apr-22 11:08:21

I am also neither one nor the other.

I like to think I look at things from all angles and consider the pros and cons

My DH has his head in the clouds quite a bit and comes up with some unrealistic ideas/suggestions. I confess that I tend to be a bit more negative when he comes up with some of his impractical and impossible to carry through suggestions. If I went along with everything he suggested it would be a disaster. I do get accused of being negative then.

GrannyGravy13 Thu 21-Apr-22 11:36:56

I was realistic along with a large dash of glass half full however, over the last two years of lockdowns/restrictions and spending so much time at home I have become more of a glass half empty person with a fair amount of negativity thrown in.

I have had a stern word with myself and shall endeavour to return to my pre-Covid personality. I think it may take some time, I shall persevere as I am not enamoured with me at the moment.

nadateturbe Thu 21-Apr-22 11:55:34

Thanks Smileless.

Farzanah Thu 21-Apr-22 12:03:44

Surely we are all a mixture and can’t be defined as a “positive” or “negative” personality. Situations change and so do we.
You’re not alone nadateturbe.

Katyj Thu 21-Apr-22 12:08:41

I would say I’m somewhere in the middle . But I am a realist I say and see things exactly as they are, never expect anything. DH definitely glass half empty. Totally opposite in that as soon as there’s something to worry about he sticks his head in the sand ?

Party4 Thu 21-Apr-22 12:18:56

Sorry to say glass half empty here.
Decisions made in early adult life always turned out to be the wrong one. I slowly started to try and think through all negatives before making decisions.As DH says couldn't make decision to save my life.
Now struggle the older I get with more family to fret over .

BBbevan Thu 21-Apr-22 12:21:27

Not at all. Glass always half full. Things are never as bad as they seem etc. Still very happy with life