Are You A Negative Person

Positive

If I ever feel down I think of Katie Piper and all she has had to cope with.

O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!

Robert Burns "To a Louse"

O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!

Robert Burns "To a Louse"

Perfect!

Kate1949 I think you and I possibly had very similar childhoods. When I think of the things I experienced it gives me strength and courage to know that when the worst happens, there is a way to come through it; I’m the living proof (and I think you are too). Optimism is a bit unrealistic perhaps as it assumes only good things; realism says that whatever befalls, for good or ill, it can be survived and lessons learned. Then slowly confidence builds and enjoyment can be attained ‘in the moment’.

Thank you ga. Yes I think our childhoods were similar. I've survived it all like you and everyone else but sometimes it seems relentless.
Our latest has arrived. I am close to my sisters. We look out for each other. Our mum died when the girls were teenagers. Our father was vile. I have documented it many times on here! One of my sisters has been going through marital problems, has been distressed, not eating, lost weight etc. It was just beginning to calm down and this week their young nephew (in his 20s - not my nephew, my sister's husband's) was found dead at home. They were quite close to him. Like I say, relentless.

no, I'm just tired

JaneJudge

no, I'm just tired

Lol!

I can empathise with that

nadateturbe

I'm a combination of positive/negative/and realistic, depending on how I feel at any given moment.
I'm sure that doesn't make sense to anyone.

It makes sense to me, nadateturbe

I'm a mixture of Anne of Green Gables (or is it Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm?) and a worrier about imaginary scenarios.
Coupled with indignation at injustices or misunderstandings!!

I'm really a positive person - even when things are going wrong and it all looks awful, I still see hope.

I tend towards negativity, but can on occasion be positive - but I'm often somewhere in-between.

I think that makes me pretty normal, if I'm feeling good about myself.

I wouldn't say negative. But I think things through and I am realistic about things, which some see as negative.

I'm a WOTEEFF, even when I've got a full glass of wine! In other words, like some other contributors, I tend to see the potential dark side of any situation/suggestion as well as the positive one.
Maybe we could start a facebook group for WOTEEFFS. Trouble is, I'm clueless about facebook, so wont be joining!

PS if you haven;t cottoned on - I'm a 'what if' sort of person.

No, always try see positives..of course there's an occasional off day, but not many.Lifes too short to be miserable for long.Thats why i don't come on Gransnet too often really, too many moaning minnies some days, or folk who can't see the better side.?Don't get me wrong, i can have have a good old moan sometimes, but largely i try to make the best of things.☺

I always try not to take anything said to me personally. It is invariably the other person's own issue..

Don’t think it matters what others think of us, yet somehow it does matter.
Being realistic doesn’t equate to being negative.
If we are constantly positive that may be a problem too. Just be yourself weigh up the situation. Positive and negative are labels and not needed or helpful.

I try to have a positive outlook on life, and believe I suceed. As yet no-one has accused me of being negative.

In your place, Theodora, I would assume that the person who called you negative was either just trying to be nasty, or reacting unfavourably to something you had said or done, that that person had misunderstood.

I hope you don't let it worry you. If you can't just let the remark go, ask what was meant by it. Please don't just assume the remark was justified.

My glass is completely empty!

Someone once described me as a realistic optimist. Not a bad place to be because I'm rarely disappointed.

Positive person here. Early in my life I decided to be like the people I preferred to be around. I almost always have a smile on my face, and I always try to be cheerful and helpful. I don't work myself up over other people's idiocies, I just let stuff like that wash over me. Life is much easier that way.

I've had a lot of ups and downs in my time but I make a point of seeing the upside of any change and just get on with it. It's not all innate but practice has made perfect.

I think I maybe a negative person, I am a worrier. I have sleepless night worrying about things that often never happen. I often plan for when or if things go wrong.
I hate going onto new things or to new places.
My husband loves New Years Eve, he says its like the New Year is stretching out like a blank sheet of paper to be filled with exciting new things. I cling to the old year, terrified on what the new year will bring.
I think I need therapy ?

I’m with grannyactivist.

From the outside people would think I’m a Pollyanna but it’s a lot of internal work to absorb less than ideal circumstances, marshall available resources and move forward toward dealing with them.

I rarely voice my concerns or doubts and I tend to be a cheerleader for others who may think they can’t cope.

I am engineer, my glass is neither half full, nor half empty - just twice the size it needs to be!

I usually have a smile on my face, even though I've been disabled for 4 years and use a mobility scooter but I refuse to let it depress me.

I think I'm a realist.
I find relentlessly cheerful people quite hard to deal with.

I've just read a story about a woman who said that happiness is a state of mind - if you decide to be happy you will be happy . if you decide to be sad then you will be sad.