Whiff
Kartush it's because you are a mom and have a big heart and care about family and friends alike. It's who you are . Guilt about saying no is part of being a parent. But your daughter will understand. Trouble is you don't like to let people down . But hopefully you are having time to live your own life as well. As both you and your husband need some me time.
I get your point Whiff, but disagree.
Guilt about saying no should never be "part of being a parent" and would not be if you had taught your children as they grew up that being grown up means standing on your own feet.
Obviously, we are happy to help family and friends, when we can, but we have the right to make plans without consulting them, and having done so are allowed to say pleasantly, "Sorry love, we are invited out this week-end," or whatever is applicable and NOT FEEL GUILTY AT ALL.