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Thinking ahead...

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Lululemon Wed 28-Dec-22 19:43:06

I don't know if I am overthinking this, but it is something that is worrying me. My husband has lots and lots of stuff (hundreds of cameras, hundreds of books and hundreds of cd's)
I am fairly minimalist.
He won't part with anything. If he dies before me I have no idea what I will do with all of his things - quite a few of his cameras are worth thousands of pounds. If I die first I don't think he will part with anything. My daughter is our Executor and it doesn't feel fair to leave all of this to her.
What should I do? I've tried talking to him to no avail.

Allsorts Tue 03-Jan-23 19:05:59

Worry about it when it happens, it’s just stuff, but it’s his stuff and makes him happy.

Grammaretto Tue 03-Jan-23 22:27:29

Poor you ethelwashere that gives you no time at all. A big skip?
Is your DM still alive?
I couldn't do a thing while DH was alive. He refused to engage in any discussion.
A df whose FiL died has taken 4 years to clear his flat
They wanted to find the right place for the books some of which were hundreds of years old