Wedding invite

Enjoy the ceremony and wedding breakfast I am sure your family will completely understand you not wanting to stay all evening.

Surely, the important thing is the actual ceremony. You shouldn't miss that at any price.

Go and stay as long as you can they’ll be made up that you attended.

I am afraid I think its rude to miss the ceremony. I was at a wedding in the summer a number of people (mostly over 70) left as the disco got under way, no one thought it was rude.

The ceremony and the wedding breakfast

That's what I'd do too.
Don't miss the important part, the ceremony.

Mind you, once you're there you might decide you can stay the course.

There must be somewhere to sit quietly while most of the photos are being taken.

I think it’s more appropriate to go for the ceremony and meal and then leave when you need to - skipping the ceremony is weird for me

I’ve been to weddings like this and if you’re not careful you can be half cut by the time you sit down to eat as there’s always drinking, fizz and the like after the ceremony so it’s a good idea to have a quick lunch before the ceremony. I agree it would be rude to miss the wedding itself. Personally I find they drag on far too long these days and I’m pleased to be not going to anymore in the foreseeable.

We have had sandwiches served at our kids weddings to bridge that gap. Cost about £140 and was worth every penny. People should definitely think about this as it’s a long old time until the meal.

We usually do the ceremony and the breakfast. When we run out of steam, we just go off to our hotel or home.

It's a bit rude to miss the ceremony, and just turn up for the food. 🙂

GrannyGravy13

I would go to the ceremony, wedding breakfast and leave probably around 8/8.30pm

Yes, that’s exactly what we do too.
Leave about an hour and a half after the meal.
I think that to not go to the ceremony could be seen as rude.
To me, it’s far and away the most important part

Wow! 🤩 I think that we are all speaking as one!
A rare case of complete accord has broken out!

Pop a marmalade sandwich in your bag, like Paddington, to keep you going.

Is this a first Fanny!
🤣

There might be comfy seats and you can take a nap between events. In my vast experience, of 5 fairly recent weddings, one was a two tier event with youngsters only being invited to the evening do
They mainly congregated in the bar and we hardly saw them.
The family and other oldies enjoyed the ceilidh and disco till we dropped.

Like Maw I don't like the 2 tier arrangement but it meant they could include most of their friends.

When my sister remarried I went to the registry office and the meal afterwards but passed on the evening disco. I was in my early 40s at the time so did not have age as an excuse. I just didnt want to go because I hate loud music. I dont think anyone was bothered. Weddings are an invitiation, not a summons.

Go to the wedding ceremony and breakfast obviously. Then go home or stay till early evening for a while then go.
I'm in my mid seventies and would stay for the whole thing. You're not too old to enjoy a wonderful family event.

I’d just go to the wedding. And enjoy it 😀

I don’t think it rude.
Most couples would want their friends and relatives to simply be there at some point to help celebrate their marriage?
Surely most people would prefer their guests to have an enjoyable time, so attending or missing any parts as preferred?
With older guests, I’d guess any participation to suit would be what’s wanted.

Personally, I think the service is the most important aspect of the day. For my niece's day, we attended everything and then left at about 7pm because we had a long drive home and the music was a bit loud. By then, the bride and groom were having too much fun to notice which aunts and uncles had left.

I don't think it's mandatory to stay to midnight!! Leave when you want for heaven's sake,

Just go to the ceremony and the wedding breakfast

The most important part is the ceremony, if I was youI’d definitely go to that and the meal after. As for the evening I’d decline stating you’re not up to that too as no doubt numbers are tight so at least then your nephew can invite friends for the evening instead

Don’t miss the wedding service , as it starts at 1pm it will probably last about 30-40 minutes depending on the type of service. Photos another hour ! Once you’re done with the family photos go in and put your feet up in the lounge , if it’s a hotel they’ll have lots of places you can relax and perhaps get a cuppa…. We had a similar situation last summer and the hotel were very accommodating to us oldies and gave us a quiet place to relax while the photographer continued his job , he even came looking for us and took some lovely photos of us sitting in rather plush chairs raising our cups to the newlyweds!!!
We left about 9pm after the evening buffet, our niece-the bride - even made sure we were given a “doggy bag” of extra wedding cake and food to take home with us..

GrannyGravy13

I would go to the ceremony, wedding breakfast and leave probably around 8/8.30pm

We have done this at a wedding and it worked well. we got a taxi back to where we were staying after the Wedding breakfast. .