Safeguarding Concerns - what happens after one is reported.

*petulantly!!!!

And, we have 5 children of our own. Bil has just the 1.

And, I've been very poorly (!!!) and he has not once asked how I am since last September. #Stamps foot petulant!

Not sure this time calli. I have asked bil but don't get a proper response. We are in a dilemma as to whether to check with the police. She will pay ultimately and we are not in full possession of all the information

DH has talked to his brother quite a bit and in various tones!! Bil lives in Thailand and is a wimp! And exceedingly selfish.

We have had dn stay, encouraged her to go to a solicitor, gone with her to see the solicitor, even gone to Court with her. (Her dh regretted trying to intimidate me as I reported him to the usher and security!) But, poor woman is so cowed by the b*****d that she goes back.

We got her a flat, gave her furniture etc and she gave her husband a key.

Bil, meanwhile, sits in Thailand with his girlfriend!

Sorry for the rant.

kittylester

This has been going on for years - decades even - as you say dragonfly. But, despite raising concerns, nothing changes.

My query is really about what we might see, aftera referral, in practical terms? Would someone go to see her?

Like lots of victims of domestic abuse she believes it's her fault and she should just learn to stop upsetting him - and her father agrees.

Are the police involved, kittylester?

Like lots of victims of domestic abuse she believes it's her fault and she should just learn to stop upsetting him - and her father agrees.
That's dreadful, it is not her fault and that's just not how her father should be seeing the situation at all. She needs more support than that from him. Would her father listen to your DH?

How sad that her father is not supporting her. If it were my child I would be tempted to take her home and not let her out again until her partner was prosecuted.
I hope you can get things sorted out permanently this time.

I m not sure how a hospital would work but a friend of mine reported an ex who was putting her and her children through hell to the police and they acted very quickly putting in emergency button for her and banning him from going anywhere near her
The trouble is if the hospital send SS or police to talk to her she will not press any charges she will say she’s fine so it will probably all be pointless

This has been going on for years - decades even - as you say dragonfly. But, despite raising concerns, nothing changes.

My query is really about what we might see, aftera referral, in practical terms? Would someone go to see her?

Like lots of victims of domestic abuse she believes it's her fault and she should just learn to stop upsetting him - and her father agrees.

I don't think it would hurt to ring Social Services. I seem to remember this has happened before and she had got away. As Calipso says maybe the more people who ring the more notice they will take.

I agree with Calipso it will reiterate that it’s urgent and bring it back to the fore so yes I would if it’s as bad as you believe and who knows if it’s got lost amongst the many issues the hospital will be dealing with

I would think that in this situation it is always better for more than one person or agency to have made a referral than to make an assumption that it has been done. I hope it gets resolved quickly Kittylester