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love2travel Fri 03-Mar-23 22:50:12

Am I odd in wanting to mark my daughters first Mother’s Day? If no

Hi
It is my daughters first Mother’s Day and I would like to mark this special occasion. Is this odd ? (She is not my mother!)

Grannybags Sat 04-Mar-23 14:39:36

I don't have daughters but don't think I would have done it. I don't for my DiL

Once our children were old enough to buy their own Mother's Day gifts for me I told my DH not to buy me anything as I am not his Mother!

NotSpaghetti Sat 04-Mar-23 14:40:09

Some of us Violet (I suppose I mean me!) don't "find mothers day sacred to themselves as mothers" but do think it's a day to thank those who have mothered us. So I think if I'd (for example) been mothered by a friend of the family, then I'd be more inclined to celebrate that person.

I'd like to think that it's a day for my daughters' children to make a little gesture towards their mothers. If they are too tiny to see how lovely their mums are I'd hope the dads/partner can help them.
If no dad/partner then I may step in as someone said above.

I know it's not about me - And as I'm lucky that I know I'm loved anyway it's not a big deal tbh.

JaneJudge Sat 04-Mar-23 14:45:32

I buy my Mum and Mum in law gifts and my children buy me gifts. I don't think it needs to exclude anyone. I have just realised my Mum usually gives me something small too smile

Norah Sat 04-Mar-23 14:49:46

Life just can't have too many sweet pressies. The more the better.

VioletSky Sat 04-Mar-23 14:53:51

I just don't understand it NotSpaghetti

People seem to feel very strongly but I don't understand why

Even schools help celebrate mothers day and quite a few put on tea parties and things like that

Why would more celebration be a bad thing?

NotSpaghetti Sat 04-Mar-23 15:57:16

Violet
It's very personal I think.

I suppose it's the long path of time... it's a continuum so there may be changes...

Schools are perhaps helping the children celebrate their mother (or the mothering person in their lives?

VioletSky Sat 04-Mar-23 16:09:45

Yes, it's a large part of our identity

Bridgeit Sat 04-Mar-23 16:21:34

Not odd, but better to ask her if it is something that she would like to do .

Mama2020 Wed 08-Mar-23 18:03:38

Wouldn’t be odd here in the US. Sounds like a lovely gesture! Mother’s Day seems to be a little different here, though.

I would’ve appreciated a gift certificate for a mani/pedi or a shoulder massage. And to be completely honest, I would’ve most appreciated permission to stay home and relax, rather than running to our own mothers’ homes.

CanadianGran Wed 08-Mar-23 18:15:55

I think it's a lovely gesture. A small photo frame or something to commemorate her becoming a mum. I personally wouldn't do it every year, but to celebrate your daughter's new status is touching.