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What to call son's partner

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eddiecat78 Sun 19-Mar-23 12:44:37

Our son was in a terrible marriage and for a while I had a "daughter-in-law". Thankfully that is in the past and son now has a lovely partner - but they're not married so I don't refer to her as our daughter-in-law - but just as "son's partner". I just wondered how other families do this? She is most definitely part of our family and I'd like to signify that in some way

Daddima Wed 22-Mar-23 15:08:55

welbeck

Scotgirlnick

My daughter refers to the man she lives with as her partner. I tend to refer to him as her boyfriend. Or partner depending on who Im talking to

why not use the term which they do of themselves.
boyfriend sounds more flimsy to me,
poss here today and gone tomorrow,
or someone one is walking out with,
rather than staying in with.
it could come across as not fully accepting their status.

Frank Skinner did make me laugh when he said that a man of his age talking about his ‘girlfriend’ was like a man of his age talking about ‘his skateboard’!

I know you would call them by their name, but I think the question relates more to introductions, when you need to explain who the person is. I’d just go for daughter/son -in-law, or son/daughter’s partner.

Glorianny Wed 22-Mar-23 16:33:42

Didn't someone once post a Scots term for someone living with another person as a bide-a-wee?
I like that.

welbeck Wed 22-Mar-23 16:42:29

that definitely sounds like a here today and gone tomorrow situation.
can't imagine anyone would want to be described thus.

grannyqueenie Wed 22-Mar-23 16:56:15

Though a firm believer in marriage I never really differentiated between those who were married to my children and those who weren’t. If they were committed enough to be sharing a home with any of my children I just thought of them and referred to them as “in laws” and actually they now all are!

PS Glorianny do you mean a “bidie- in” ?

Glorianny Wed 22-Mar-23 17:12:47

grannyqueenie

Though a firm believer in marriage I never really differentiated between those who were married to my children and those who weren’t. If they were committed enough to be sharing a home with any of my children I just thought of them and referred to them as “in laws” and actually they now all are!

PS Glorianny do you mean a “bidie- in” ?

Thanks grannyqueenie that's exactly it. I was trying to remember a "bidie-in"
Sorry about the mistake!

usgranny Wed 22-Mar-23 17:43:35

I refer to my daughter in law as my daughter in love.....that would work for your situation also and convey your affection for her

Shel69 Thu 23-Mar-23 14:08:19

I refer to my children's other half as their partners if they are living together, married or not