Baby Mama

Welcome, and congratulations on your grandson, I'm sorry things are like they are with your son, hopefully rehab will help him, I think it's lovely your trying to bond with GS and baby mum, but like others have said give her time, I'm sure once she's more comfortable, you'll be able to reap the rewards.

1. Baby mama has a negative connotation in the US - I would rephrase "mother of the baby"

2. I cannot believe you are asking a mother of a newborn to drop the baby in your home for your convenience
Please rectify it now and apologize if needed

Requesting time alone with a newborn is insane. Literally insane. You do not need to bond.

3. This visitation schedule she has been made to agree to may not last
In the future, the access to the child goes through your son, whe he is with his child

This will involve lawyers and custody orders- your son has to drive it if he is interested on this

4. Support the mother so she can be the best mother for her child, back off and think long term, not short term.
Value the mother and not only the child, that is a mistake many grandparents make - they ignore the parents wanting to get their hands on the kids onlu

My first post too though I have followed long enough to know you have found the right site for warm and caring advice. My DD is an addict also, alcohol in her case, who hasn’t yet made it to Rehab and I have two beautiful GC aged 9 & 7 now. I have a very good relationship with their father but it has taken time and patience from us both and I am now very involved in their upbringing. My GC are happy and secure. My advice would be to take each day as it comes, respect you GS’s mother and enjoy any time you spend with him. If you are unsure in a situation remember that for all of you your GS’s wellbeing is the first priority. It can be a tricky path but your grandson will benefit from a loving bond with you and a relaxed atmosphere. Good luck, hope it goes well for your son.