muddynails
Thank you for your replies. I do have details of his car for next time he goes out to buy drink, my doctor suggested this as she was horrified that he was drink driving, H keeps a supply hidden. He does accept he is an alcoholic but refuses to stop, says my nagging him about it is why he drinks and I'm not going to run the last few years of his life for him. I've told him I love him and believe on the infrequent times he tries to give up drinking he still loves me, and during those times he is a lovely man, unfortunately those times are becoming less frequent
Sadly these times will become less and less frequent - I had to throw out an alcoholic partner as he stopped giving me enough money to pay the bills, gradually at first until there one day was none as he had spent it all on drink. Eventually he started drinking mouthwash as it was cheaper. You could smell the alcohol on his skin, he was sweating it. It WAS scary, chucking him out and being alone for the first time ever, but it had to be. Accepting he is an alcoholic is the only positive thing here, but getting him to do anything about it is a different matter - my brother will NOT accept that he is, and says he can stop any time, which is complete BS, you wouldn't be able to do that without going through withdrawal, which will be hellish. It has to be done gradually preferably with help ...
He will hide it and become more clever at hiding it - I will bet that it is under the floor of his car boot, as that is where I would hide it if I were being sneaky!
Please start getting your 'ducks' in order, as *Hithere says ...
1. Talk to a lawyer to know your rights
2. Attend meetings of an organization who supports family of alcoholics
3. Start getting important documents
4. Untangle yourself financially: Open your own bank account, get your own account if you have a family account together, etc.
5. Discreetly start building a secret money stash
It won't be easy by any means, but your life is as important as his is ...