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Leaving something on your plate you dislike

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Norah Sun 16-Jul-23 13:36:43

Was I wrong to feel annoyed that my 38 year old son acted like this, he is generally a moaner but really why not just shove it to one side and get on with your meal.

No, you're not wrong to have your own feelings.

Theexwife Sun 16-Jul-23 13:32:24

You say he is generally a moaner so maybe he is getting worse as he gets older.

I think that some single people, although not selfish, prioritise their needs and wants over someone with others to think about and it comes across as sulking when they don't get what they want.

Baggs Sun 16-Jul-23 13:30:50

It wasn't so much the leaving something that bothered you, was it, btw, as your son's sulky, childish behaviour which does indeed sound ridiculous?

bytheway Sun 16-Jul-23 13:03:09

Last weekend we took the family out for lunch.

On this occasion, there was 5 adults and 5 children.

My son, aged 38, (who is single with no children) pulled a face when his fish and chips arrived at the table…the reason being that they had put a tablespoon of coleslaw on the side of the plate.

He then started to moan that he hated coleslaw, it hadn’t been stated on the menu and why had it been put on his plate!

He then carefully pushed it all to one end, moaning as he went with a face looking sullen and annoyed.

Was I wrong to feel annoyed that my 38 year old son acted like this, he is generally a moaner but really why not just shove it to one side and get on with your meal. That’s the sort of behaviour you see in a small child not a grown man.

He did then eat the meal…and pudding but honestly, his face couldn’t have tripped him up any more and I was slightly embarrassed to see that behaviour in my own son!