It’s an awkward one

Ask her 'if you had excessive facial hair would you want to be told?'
That should get you the answer.

Mutual grooming is important. It shows you care about her. My sis and I would make sure DM looked her best. We clipped her nails and removed stray whiskers.
If you want to know what happens if you don't remove unwanted chin hair, Google bearded lady. I knew a woman who let her hair grow and had a thick beard. I don't think that's common but after menopause, the female hormones are depleted. i think

Maybe you could bring up in conversation that lately you find it difficult to remove your own chin hairs without the aid of a magnifying mirror. She might just volunteer then that she can’t see hers and you could offer to get plucking.

Hi, in my case then trying to make a joke of it. Making light of things.

Really awkward .

In the past , I've wondered how to tell an aunt that she ponged or would look better if her stray hairs were removed .

My children solved the problem with their loud observations .

I think that it's okay to tell a mother very gently .

I have long single hairs around my face that seem to re grow overnight. I don't really care about them though I do have a go with the scissors or tweezers if I am going somewhere special. I did see someone about electrolysis once but she said she couldn't touch the worst ones - growing out of various moles - and wasn't interested in the others..... If someone mentioned them to me I would just take it as concern...but really it's not an issue for me...BTW I have seen our GP who specializes in warts and moles and he's not bothered either....!

As you never discuss personal matters with your mum Victoriaplum, my advice is to say nothing as your mum's appearance is a very personal issue

I have a little shaver gadget - recommended long ago on Gransnet. I use a magnifying mirror to look for stray whiskers when are ruthlessly expunged. If one escaped my notice, one of my sons or my DGD would point it out and why should I complain about that? They care about me. You don't say how old your mum is, VP. I'm 82 and still care about chin hairs. Maybe you could use a little chin shaver yourself and tell her about it.

Other female mammals have whiskers and nobody minds 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I'm off to find the tweezers!

why don't you google a mobile beautician and treat both of you to a home facial..

I have to say….What the eye don’t see the heart won’t grieve over!

Thanks for all the opinions and advice. It does appear that most of you would want to be told.
My mum still makes an effort in her appearance in many ways e.g dresses nicely, jewellery etc.. but when it comes to fine detail she doesn’t notice, which I’m putting down to poor eye sight . She’s very stubborn when it comes to wearing her specs, despite it being a big problem.
So far I have tried subtle hints such as doing my own plucking of facial hair in front of her, but alas it hasn’t worked. Maybe she just doesn’t really care.
Maybe I’m just particularly sensitive to it, as I hate anything that draws attention to me. And as a pp mentioned, I believe there are very few people out there who truly do not care about their appearance.
I think my next move will be to purchase a magnifying mirror to casually leave lying around, and I like the idea of booking a facial treatment. I’ll keep you posted!

I'd like it to be taken care of.

But I didn't mention it to my mum, none of us lived anywhere near to follow up and it probably would have upset deeply.

Good luck with the facial if she likes to look nice then it might be a "goer".

Even in her 90s my Mum was very particular about her appearance and used to get me to pluck any stray hairs from her face. She never had those short bristly ones but the odd long, floaty ones that seem to appear overnight as someone else said.

My lot would definitely tell me. Either that or just come up to me and yank them out!
I told them recently that I keep finding just one randomly white eyelash on the top lid of my left eye. It's quite a task getting it pulled out as I invariably get the ones next to it first! My poor daughter seemed a bit horrified about it - well, she's not getting any younger now, is she?! 🤣🤣