Birthday ideas for sister in law seriously ill

My friends husband sadly had this too. She bought him a nice soft throw and it was ideal for all weathers. Also how about some lounge pyjamas. Nice and comfortable and she will feel dressed for any visitors.

I'm so sorry BlackTabby. I used to work in a hospice and patients and relatives loved Reiki.

Some lovely inspirational ideas on here for you. I would just caution against anything scented, even favourite perfumes are not nice when feeling nauseous or lacking appetite.
All the best to you and your sister in law.

What about some nice nightwear and maybe bed socks or slippers to help keep her warm, these maybe something she might need in the near future. If this is too near the knuckle then maybe a lovely bunch of flowers or, as others have said, some handcream or moisturiser.

Thankyou everyone. Brilliant ideas xxx

Very true...never gave that a thought! Thankyou x

Blacktabby2, I'm sorry to hear the sad news about your SIL. My brother passed away recently after a long illness so I know how difficult it is to choose a suitable gift. One of the things I gave him was a cushion with a lovely message on it about brothers. He always had it near him and it has gone in his coffin with him. Perhaps you could choose something similar or, as someone else suggested, a nice soft throw.
notanotherbunchofflowers.com have some lovely gifts too.

Thank you LauraNorder. I never knew that.

What about getting a photo book made for her. All her favourite family photos to look through. Failing that there's always flowers.

So sorry to hear your sad news.

What you do about your SILs upcoming birthday depends very much on whether she wants her life to go on as normal, or whether she is feeling that there is no point in anything as she is dying, or whether she needs time to make up her mind whether she believes the prognosis and whether she wants to fight on, or not.

This may not seem a particularly helpful answer, but seen from where I stand, as a wife with a husband dealing with a similar prognosis, I feel that the best love and support we can offered must be based on how the person with the condition and prognosis is feeling right now.

If you and she cannot discuss her illness and the prospects at present, then buy her something nice from the many suggestions given, or invite her out for a short drive in your car, if she is well enough, and you drive, and if you write a card avoid traditional ones that say Happy Birthday or Many Happy Returns, simply put "with love" on a plain card and sign your name.

At this sad stage, I think spending precious time with your SIL is the most precious gift you can give.

Some lovely suggestions here.... I would add that sense of taste/smell is affected by drugs so not to be offended if a favourite item is disliked. My late brother poured a fine bottle of wine down drain as he thought it was 'off'. Music sustained my very elderly mother to the end when she had turned away from television. Also she had a great sense of humour and enjoyed the 'golden oldies'... perhaps a CD of some of the best radio shows that are timeless?

So sorry to hear about your Sister-in-Law. As for a gift, when my MIL was very poorly, we compiled a photo album for her and everyone wrote little messages inside; she really loved it. Maybe an option for your SIL?

My mums last Christmas was like this.We got her a new hoo water bottle with a thick snuggly cover and some nice smelling hand and body lotion.the hottie went down a treat!

I’m sorry to read your SIL is going to succumb to the cancer. It’s terrible knowing you have limited life left. I think there is very little you can give her at this point that will mean anything to her or give her a lift.

There are some very good ideas here, but I feel she will appreciate you being there for a morning or an afternoon, just sitting by her side, whether you have conversation or not, just quietly reading, knitting beside her while she rests, watching a movie or tv, getting water or food per her request, whatever she needs. It’s all about her now. God bless her.
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If she already has throws she might appreciate a heated one. I was given one last Christmas and it is so comforting and relaxing. It's like a hot bath without the extra fuss of running it and getting in. And as the evenings get colder you don't need to put on the heating as much.

Some lovely flowers of a nice plant?

So sorry to hear this.
Soft socks, hot water bottle. Books, maybe cordial drinks as I know taste buds change.

She must be feeling low.
Remind her she is cared about.
I once received a little jar from the family with notes of why I am important to them. Simple statements that have been re read many times. Some were shared memories some were feelings.
A flower card is a nice thing to receive too and the words are your own. They don't need any care and last for weeks. Other than that just offer your time. A chat. A visit. A practical task.

Something that smells nice, maybe a perfume from her youth? My mum when I'll was so pleased when I managed to get some for her. It sparked many happy memories for her. She was only 52, I also got her a pair of beautiful soft bed socks that were a great comfort near the end

Unfortunately room diffusers are not good for someone with lung cancer nor are candles. Sorry to hear the news but there are some good suggestions I like the throw and company ones best.

Someone had already said but a Photo album with pictures through the ages.
My BiL passed away on Friday after a 6th month illness,bless him he never got out of Hospital after being admitted, but he had a poster sorted out by his daughter which was on his hospital room wall of all his family, plus my neice put together an Album of photos.
It was lovely.

So sorry. I know mg cousins wife enjoyed massage. Apart from that, just being with her.

If you think she'd like reading but holding a book is too tiring, how about audible books that she could listen to from her phone? Either a subscription or helping her with her library's online app (which you could confirm with her library). Then perhaps even curating a list of books that she might enjoy hearing? (She might need earbuds or ... my favorite ... bone conducting earphones.)

Could you go through your family photos & find some from times you were all together in the past & sit and go through them and just chat about friends etc.Take a nice smoothie over & some small different flavoured yogurts to put in the fridge.
Time spent with her is most precious to you both & just find out if there is anything she wants to do,say or write.Magazins are best as well as she can pick them up and it’s easier than concentrating on a book.