Should I remake my Will?

I don't think you're being petty and unreasonable, but what would your husband have wanted?

I think you should leave your assets to the people you care about - those nephews and nieces who have kept in touch.
I have never understood why simply being related by blood to someone, with whom you have little or no contact or closeness, should entitle you to their worldly goods when they die.
Your husband's relatives clearly didn't give a fig for him when he was alive so why should they benefit from his hard work and prosperity?
Leave your money where you feel it's deserved.

No not petty and unreasonable but difficult as you want to fulfil your dh’s wishes. Did the nephews and nieces have more contact when he was alive? If so and they no longer communicate with you maybe dh wouldn’t have been so kean for them to inherit? At the end of the day it is now your wishes. You could leave it all to charity, maybe one you both espoused.

No you are not being petty and unreasonable but Sparklefizz makes a valid point; what would your husband have wanted?

When we made our original Wills we discussed who should inherit when the last of us died. He had no strong feelings for his nephews and nieces , having had very little contact with them - just felt we had no-one else to leave everything to.

In that case Beckett as he had no strong feelings toward his nephews and nieces, do what you want to do.

That's the problem Smileless - I just don't know

I would leave the money to those who care about you and keep in contact.

Me too Charleygirl and that's what we've done with ours.

My OH's aunt and uncle were the same as you - no children but both with nieces and nephews. Uncle died first. When aunt died there were 20 beneficiaries to her will, several of which lived overseas. OH had P of A and did a lot to manage aunties care etc in her final years and then was very involved in obtaining probate. He was pretty miffed as all the beneficiaries inherited equal shares so he got exactly the same as others who hadn't seen aunty or uncle for years.
As you get older yourself you may find some of your relatives are much more helpful than others - I would prioritise them in your will so they feel appreciated after you are gone

I’m with others here. It’s your money. Leave it wherever you wish. Your nephews and nieces have kept in touch so it isn’t mean or petty to leave to them and not to people you don’t know

My view is that this is your legacy now and it’s up to you to leave it to those you want to and feel closest to, go for it!

If you have little or no contact with your and/or your DH's nieces and nephews why leave your money to them. My DH and I are child free and most of our assets will go to charities - the problem is which ones? We do have nieces and nephews but have contact with only one of them.

Did your late DH stipulated that he wanted any leftover money to go to his nieces and nephews when you died? Did he leave them anything in his own will? If not then the money is yours to dispose of as you wish.
Maybe you feel a sense of loyalty to him, I don't know, but unless he made any direct mention of it then leave it to anyone you desire. It's your money now.

Why not consider making a donation to a Charity instead? There are so many in need these days, a decent legacy could make all the difference to someone’s life. I think I am correct in saying that a charitable donation also reduces the tax bill on your Will.

If your husband wasn’t that bothered but did it because there was nothing else then why follow that rather slippy pattern leave it to whoever gives you pleasure and care or to your favourite charity

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I personally wouldn't leave my money to those I never saw, that includes children or grandchildren. You bring me flowers when I’m alive not dead, same with contact, a text occasional FaceTime in their busy lives wouldn't hurt, so I’m sure they won’t have the time to decide what to do with money from that person they never communicated with.. There are lots of people I meet who have little but a big heart, I would like to change their lives, but that’s just me. Animal charities, Lifeboats, that work for no reward.

I have two friends who never had kids. One is unmarried and has two adult nieces who only turn up when they want something. All her estate will go to them.

The other one is in a civil partnership and the two nieces are on her partner’s side. She has no family at all. She never sees them either just a Christmas card. Her partner is rather bossy so I imagine he has persuaded her to leave all their estate to them.

Just leave your estate to those who stay in touch.

In your position I would leave my money to my nieces and nephews. Your husband wasn’t very interested in his nephews and nieces, who didn’t bother with him and seemingly couldn’t care less about you. I wouldn’t leave them a penny.

I have rewritten my will recently and removed my brothers, niece and nephews. They have been replaced by my friend’s adult children who I hear from and invite me to their events.

I wouldn't leave them anything. Just because they are related to your late husband doesn't mean he owes them anything. There are plenty of deserving causes out there. Is there something or someone dear to your heart who could benefit from a legacy? Do not feel guilty about those who do not care about you. Or is there a cause that your husband cared about that you could give money to?

Beckett, could you leave a very small amount (as a gesture) to your late DH’s nieces and nephews, but with the bulk to your family? Maybe your late DH would’ve wanted that. I do agree with others though, in that if his family have not contacted you at all, why leave them anything? I would feel inclined, instead, to leave some money to charity, but most of your estate to your family, to the people who DO stay in touch.

GSM puts it well, as so often.
and has great experience in these matters.
listen to her, OP.
good luck.